I think their target group is generally more likely to pay for them rather than reach for the pirated versions (or even gather enough like-minded pirates in a single place to form a similar website/community). Developing them for
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is also common so that's a separate branch of piracy to account for.
I tend to discover Otome games through
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,
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and
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, then search for commercial ones on normal piracy and torrent sites (there are filters for free ones on all three sites). The ones with Steam releases are easy to track down, the remaining ones - less so. If the source is untrusted or your antivirus detects something but you're desperate to play it, drop the thing into a sanbox/virtual machine. There's also
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as a place where indie Visual Novel developers tend to hang out and share (freeware) or advertise (demos, announcements) their games.
And as you mention,
you can find a few here, too, and nothing stops you from
filling a request for some that you can't find elsewhere. Argue that getting clamjammed is your fetish and only the games with "no sexual content" awaiting the protagonist can turn you on.