BEING BETTER

[Deleted member 6070569]

Hello yall, imma tell you why you should be out of these webs and also, this addiction we all have and must overcome.

Being fully honest rn ive suffered the conclusion of a relationship with a girl because of my insecurity and trust issues, due to all these shit ive been consuming during the past 2 years, making excuses such as " i need this for my health, i cant stop my balls hurt " bla bla bla bla

U all must endure everything guys, u must overcome this and become better persons, i hope everyone can surpass your limits and become the greatest individuals in the world.

Better be better than be shit

Love ,

E

 

[Kamishirov]

 

[Nadekai]

Hello yall, imma tell you why you should be out of these webs and also, this addiction we all have and must overcome.

Being fully honest rn ive suffered the conclusion of a relationship with a girl because of my insecurity and trust issues, due to all these shit ive been consuming during the past 2 years, making excuses such as " i need this for my health, i cant stop my balls hurt " bla bla bla bla

U all must endure everything guys, u must overcome this and become better persons, i hope everyone can surpass your limits and become the greatest individuals in the world.

Better be better than be shit

Love ,

E

That sounds like someone irresponsible. Many of us are functioning members of society.
Besides, you often meet nice people on this site.

 

[woody554]

It sounds like you've identified your surface problem, doing something so much that it's a problem to your relationship, but are maybe misattributing the cause slightly wrong. porn is not making you do these things, instead something in your life that's making you miserable is making you overuse porn as distraction and escape. something is making you feel so bad you're willing to risk your relationship just to get that short temporary relief from your real pain. and because you've been fixing the wrong problem instead of whatever is making you miserable, the problem isn't getting better but WORSE.

this is how all addictions work. quitting heroin is easy, every junkie does it all the time. but quitting being a survivor of pdf-file that's MAKING you use heroin 20 years later - much much harder. but it's the latter reason that keeps people relapsing, not the fact that the drug feels good. the addiction is just a tool you're using to numb your pain.

but it helps to sort out your thoughts when you quit the addiction, it becomes easier to address that real problem. so you're on the right path already. just understand that you must solve the other problem - whatever is making you feel so bad that porn gives you the short relief from it - or you will relapse back into your addiction. (or switch it to another one).

but good luck. I hope you can find peace with your demons.

 

[Nadekai]

It sounds like you've identified your surface problem, doing something so much that it's a problem to your relationship, but are maybe misattributing the cause slightly wrong. porn is not making you do these things, instead something in your life that's making you miserable is making you overuse porn as distraction and escape. something is making you feel so bad you're willing to risk your relationship just to get that short temporary relief from your real pain. and because you've been fixing the wrong problem instead of whatever is making you miserable, the problem isn't getting better but WORSE.

this is how all addictions work. quitting heroin is easy, every junkie does it all the time. but quitting being a survivor of pdf-file that's MAKING you use heroin 20 years later - much much harder. but it's the latter reason that keeps people relapsing, not the fact that the drug feels good. the addiction is just a tool you're using to numb your pain.

but it helps to sort out your thoughts when you quit the addiction, it becomes easier to address that real problem. so you're on the right path already. just understand that you must solve the other problem - whatever is making you feel so bad that porn gives you the short relief from it - or you will relapse back into your addiction. (or switch it to another one).

but good luck. I hope you can find peace with your demons.

Hey, I managed to addict few people to H-games, I feel weirdly proud of myself.

 

[Glorified_ignorance]

 

[Deleted member 6070569]

It sounds like you've identified your surface problem, doing something so much that it's a problem to your relationship, but are maybe misattributing the cause slightly wrong. porn is not making you do these things, instead something in your life that's making you miserable is making you overuse porn as distraction and escape. something is making you feel so bad you're willing to risk your relationship just to get that short temporary relief from your real pain. and because you've been fixing the wrong problem instead of whatever is making you miserable, the problem isn't getting better but WORSE.

this is how all addictions work. quitting heroin is easy, every junkie does it all the time. but quitting being a survivor of pdf-file that's MAKING you use heroin 20 years later - much much harder. but it's the latter reason that keeps people relapsing, not the fact that the drug feels good. the addiction is just a tool you're using to numb your pain.

but it helps to sort out your thoughts when you quit the addiction, it becomes easier to address that real problem. so you're on the right path already. just understand that you must solve the other problem - whatever is making you feel so bad that porn gives you the short relief from it - or you will relapse back into your addiction. (or switch it to another one).

but good luck. I hope you can find peace with your demons.

coming back to this thread for no reason and ill tell ya that im the same and im still the same way, i relapsed like a week later after postin that and maybe ur right but i dont know what is making me feel horrible inside, maybe its just me? who knows

 

[woody554]

maybe its just me? who knows

it's rarely 'just you'. or, to put in another way: whatever 'you' are now is a result of what has been done to you over your life (not necessarily deliberately). there's a reason why you have insecurity and trust issues, we're not born with them. and if you can manage to figure out what made you feel insecure or fear abandonement, it's then easier to recognize that those feelings are not actually 'you' and feel less controlled by them.

 

[desmosome]

Is this Gods2ndWeakestSoldier?

 

[anne O'nymous]

there's a reason why you have insecurity and trust issues, we're not born with them.

This is not totally true. Paranoia, that is one of the possible cause of insecurity and trust issues, can either come from your life experience or be induced by some mental disease. Therefore you can perfectly be born with it.

It doesn't mean that, in this last case, it's "you". A disease, even a mental one, define what you are, not who you are. But it's then not as easy to deal with those negative feelings, because there isn't that external part coming from what you acquired during your life.
If, by example, your father was an alcoholic that used to beat the shit out of you, you can learn that not everyone with a glass of alcohol in hand is an alcoholic, and that not all alcoholic are violent. But when you're, let's say schizophrenic, you've no other hold on your trust issues than "I suffer from paranoia, all this is probably purely imaginary".

What doesn't mean that the second case can not be fixed, but not in the same way than the first.

 

[Deleted member 6070569]

it's rarely 'just you'. or, to put in another way: whatever 'you' are now is a result of what has been done to you over your life (not necessarily deliberately). there's a reason why you have insecurity and trust issues, we're not born with them. and if you can manage to figure out what made you feel insecure or fear abandonement, it's then easier to recognize that those feelings are not actually 'you' and feel less controlled by them.

lets say i tend to overthink little too much abt everything happening in my life, and lets say ive tried to stop it but i havent found a way to accomplish that, maybe the fact that im this way is making me have whatever i have? although i understand overthinking is something that could be either good or terrible for me i dont know how to control it