First, people that say they hate combat in games should watch movies, video games are clearly not for them.
As for examples, my god, let me try to sum it:
I love platformers, and certainly, the ones that stand out for me the most are Eroico and Forest of the Blue Skin.
I really like the later, to the point I'm making a game inspired by it. Basically, and this is very important:
SEX SHOULD BE A REWARD, NOT A PUNISHMENT. So don't make it so sex is something you get by having to lose on purpose. In the game I'm developing, you get sex if you are smart enough to know how to get enemies weaknesses, and even then, it is up to you if you want to engage in sex or not, doing it have some rewards, like refilling your health, but it is not mandatory if you don't want to for whatever reason, and you only need to do it with each enemy only once to get the biggest benefit and an ability.
And honorific mention: What if Adventure Time was a 3D Anime, before the author decided to censor his own game out of very stupid reasons. The combat, I would say is something that dreams are made of. Imagine kingdom hearts, and that's it. Is very good, even if it needs some fleshing.
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And here the latest, censored version.
The thing is, however, that the combat had nothing to do with the sex, and sex was rather a reward if you do things right. And that's completely ok. I think sex games do have 2 phases, to say it in a way: The game part, and the sex part. The game part have you playing the game, and the sex part is the reward for playing it.
I have not even once have seen these 2 phases combined working well, because as you enjoy the sex scene, you wouldn't probably want to do anything else, and as you play, a sex scene would only get in the way.
To make it simple: Think of it as a good game first, something you enjoy to play not only for the sex you will get, but something you would enjoy playing without it, and then sex would just be the cherry on top of your game. I think lewd mods of normal games like Darkest Dungeon do this well. You only have added lewd elements, but without getting too far from the core gameplay, and you have a game you can enjoy with some eye candy:
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