Given Tobs' track record, yeah no. You, the MC, are a 'Northerner' and therefore is heavily implied to have 'savage' ways of thinking unlike the more refined totally-not-Nippon. Why should they, clearly the superior race and not at all immigrants settling on your native turf, do something even as simple as ask you for your blessings to marry your daughter?
Better yet, why is it that your choices in raising your daughter should even end up between two bizarre outcomes? Farmer for free-thinking and independent, and courtesan minx for traditional and cultured? Are farmers not allowed to be cultured? Are court ladies just not able to be capable of independent thought? Why not just let them go on their own adventures? Explore the world?
Doesn't seem very progressive of Tobs, innit?