Dating or IRL space for porn addicts?

[Drakenite]

Is there a platform that exists? Or is this pretty much the only safe space where I know there are like minded individuals that share my hobby? Traditional dating platforms wouldn't really work if I said I like AVNs. I have other hobbies too, but AVNs and the occasional hentai is hard to drop. This would be a lot easier than striking a conversation with a girl perusing the doujin area or restricted booths in conventions.

If it helps with the discussion, I'm pretty lean, 155lb with low body fat 5'8 Male. I hit the gym 6 days a week.

Also, those of you with spouses/partners, how open are you with your SOs about this stuff? Did you start dating before or after AVN/porn? What are their thoughts? I'm curious.

 

[anony647]

i dont know i found my wife and wait 4 years to open up on my special game hobby she open minded so she play with me sometime we dont like the same types of game but sometime when we found a game that we both enjoyed things go spicy really fast so my advice do like me ^^ if she is the right one thing are going to be fine

 

[Booty Call Studios]

Sites like xhamster have their own dating section. I haven't tried it but probably most of the women there are escorts or want to sell you content/services (maybe not and I'm judging without knowing).

And platforms that promise you “women addicted to sex or porn” there without trying them for sure I dare to say that they are just going to want to take all your money.

I think the main problem of what you are raising is in the very fact that women are not so open about everything that has to do with sexuality. At least in my country, maybe it is influenced by the fact that we had an ultra-right dictatorship in my country until 45 years ago and the repression that existed towards women has not yet disappeared from the collective consciousness and they themselves are the ones who are inhibited.

What I can say with total certainty from my own experience, is that in private circles such as swingers clubs or singles clubs you might find people more in tune with these practices or content. Out of respect for third parties I will not say what practices I have done with some women I have met in such places but in the end the conclusion is, try to move in circles where sexuality is as normal and open as the one who tells you that he goes to the supermarket to buy bread.
And if you are more introverted and you are a little embarrassed to go to places like that, probably with a lot of searching you can find forums or sub-forums (counting telegram groups, facebook, etc. obviously they are not marked with a sign that says, hey, sex addicted people, come on in. That's why you might have a hard time finding those safe places on the internet) where local people from your city or surroundings do these things and there you can meet more open people with whom you can open up and tell them about your tastes without fear of rejection or being seen as a weirdo.

 

[Drakenite]

Sites like xhamster have their own dating section. I haven't tried it but probably most of the women there are escorts or want to sell you content/services (maybe not and I'm judging without knowing).

And platforms that promise you “women addicted to sex or porn” there without trying them for sure I dare to say that they are just going to want to take all your money.

I think the main problem of what you are raising is in the very fact that women are not so open about everything that has to do with sexuality. At least in my country, maybe it is influenced by the fact that we had an ultra-right dictatorship in my country until 45 years ago and the repression that existed towards women has not yet disappeared from the collective consciousness and they themselves are the ones who are inhibited.

What I can say with total certainty from my own experience, is that in private circles such as swingers clubs or singles clubs you might find people more in tune with these practices or content. Out of respect for third parties I will not say what practices I have done with some women I have met in such places but in the end the conclusion is, try to move in circles where sexuality is as normal and open as the one who tells you that he goes to the supermarket to buy bread.
And if you are more introverted and you are a little embarrassed to go to places like that, probably with a lot of searching you can find forums or sub-forums (counting telegram groups, facebook, etc. obviously they are not marked with a sign that says, hey, sex addicted people, come on in. That's why you might have a hard time finding those safe places on the internet) where local people from your city or surroundings do these things and there you can meet more open people with whom you can open up and tell them about your tastes without fear of rejection or being seen as a weirdo.

That makes sense. What you said is true as I have been to those places and can tell those people are more open to these types of topics for sure. I just wasn't sure if they were genuine about it since they are there to please clients so they could be saying anything to agree with the client to make them happy. Finding the right groups such as in Facebook could be difficult since the closest I can get to this topic is maybe those in the video gaming space. I'll give it a shot some more, thanks.

 

[Gone405]

Is there a platform that exists? Or is this pretty much the only safe space where I know there are like minded individuals that share my hobby? Traditional dating platforms wouldn't really work if I said I like AVNs. I have other hobbies too, but AVNs and the occasional hentai is hard to drop. This would be a lot easier than striking a conversation with a girl perusing the doujin area or restricted booths in conventions.

If it helps with the discussion, I'm pretty lean, 155lb with low body fat 5'8 Male. I hit the gym 6 days a week.

Also, those of you with spouses/partners, how open are you with your SOs about this stuff? Did you start dating before or after AVN/porn? What are their thoughts? I'm curious.

I haven't really opened up about my hobbies with Hentai and AVNs to my gf but she knows I'm into it. She doesn't really mind just not curious about it herself (which is fine). I've been a fiend for AVNs for years so this was something I knew would happen at some point. I would say if she does really love/care for you she shouldn't have a issue with it since it all for fun/pleasure. I've personally never tried dating sites on porn sites so that's new for sure to me. I did use a dating app to meet my gf so I still think it's possible but ik how the dating scene can be. Goodluck to you friend I really hope you find someone. <3

 

[Ass prefer]

Communication, as I understand it, is just a prelude to group sex. so let's just simplify everything, whoever gets a boner first with eye contact motionless will fuck ass, okay? Duel.

 

[NegatronPrime]

I haven't found anywhere for the degenerates, but it's a really good idea as long as you can filter out the professionals.

 

[Gone405]

I haven't found anywhere for the degenerates, but it's a really good idea as long as you can filter out the professionals.

I think it would be interesting of degenerates had a website for dating tho I feel like we gonna get mostly dudes lmao. Tho women are freaky af too I just think they're just more reserved about.

 

[Ass prefer]

Tho women are freaky af too I just think they're just more reserved about.

They just know that we need "it" (sex) more than they do.

 

[Drakenite]

I think it would be interesting of degenerates had a website for dating tho I feel like we gonna get mostly dudes lmao. Tho women are freaky af too I just think they're just more reserved about.

Definitely this. As I browse through porn titles, or even in doujin/manhwa spaces there always seem to be a few materials that are clearly catered toward women, for example like the one female MC surrounded by a harem of half-naked dudes with six packs. There has to be an audience for this type of content to be produced. It's just sad that this audience is like you said reserved or quiet about it.

Also, I recently learned about the term booktok girls. As I understand it, some of the books they read can get pretty sensual, practically erotica. These girls are also in the target audience for the works I brought up above. I feel like these types of girls would be open to a partner that plays AVNs and etc.

Perhaps a platform where both AVNs and booktok can be discussed and shared, seems to be a way forward for likeminded people to congregate.

 

[Gone405]

Definitely this. As I browse through porn titles, or even in doujin/manhwa spaces there always seem to be a few materials that are clearly catered toward women, for example like the one female MC surrounded by a harem of half-naked dudes with six packs. There has to be an audience for this type of content to be produced. It's just sad that this audience is like you said reserved or quiet about it.

Also, I recently learned about the term booktok girls. As I understand it, some of the books they read can get pretty sensual, practically erotica. These girls are also in the target audience for the works I brought up above. I feel like these types of girls would be open to a partner that plays AVNs and etc.

Perhaps a platform where both AVNs and booktok can be discussed and shared, seems to be a way forward for likeminded people to congregate.

That could be cool I have heard of booktok

Definitely this. As I browse through porn titles, or even in doujin/manhwa spaces there always seem to be a few materials that are clearly catered toward women, for example like the one female MC surrounded by a harem of half-naked dudes with six packs. There has to be an audience for this type of content to be produced. It's just sad that this audience is like you said reserved or quiet about it.

Also, I recently learned about the term booktok girls. As I understand it, some of the books they read can get pretty sensual, practically erotica. These girls are also in the target audience for the works I brought up above. I feel like these types of girls would be open to a partner that plays AVNs and etc.

Perhaps a platform where both AVNs and booktok can be discussed and shared, seems to be a way forward for likeminded people to congregate.

I've heard of booktok made me laugh when I first heard it lol. Tho I think it would be a good mix get some fun discussion going for sure. Couldn't give you the grand site you're looking for sadly :/ would be nice af.

 

[Geigi]

Definitely this. As I browse through porn titles, or even in doujin/manhwa spaces there always seem to be a few materials that are clearly catered toward women, for example like the one female MC surrounded by a harem of half-naked dudes with six packs. There has to be an audience for this type of content to be produced. It's just sad that this audience is like you said reserved or quiet about it.

Also, I recently learned about the term booktok girls. As I understand it, some of the books they read can get pretty sensual, practically erotica. These girls are also in the target audience for the works I brought up above. I feel like these types of girls would be open to a partner that plays AVNs and etc.

Perhaps a platform where both AVNs and booktok can be discussed and shared, seems to be a way forward for likeminded people to congregate.

Sensual erotica is porn to women. Otome/Joseimuke, manga/manhwa, drama cds/asmr, books/fanfiction...Booktok is bad just as wattpad. Teen girls writing and reading smut about toxic relationships, abusive partners, and unsafe BDSM practices is cringe and dangerous.

 

[anony647]

They just know that we need "it" (sex) more than they do.

i think everyone like sex it is not a gender question more a question of being sensitive to it or no
example :
a man who is less sensible will be less into the thing
and a woman who is very sensitive to it going to want it frequently

 

[Ass prefer]

i think everyone like sex it is not a gender question more a question of being sensitive to it or no
example :
a man who is less sensible will be less into the thing
and a woman who is very sensitive to it going to want it frequently

Okay, whatever you say, Sex-Expert.

 

[anony647]

Okay, whatever you say, Sex-Expert.

i just say what i think
this is a forum for discussions ...
so what ur point ?
i never think im expert i just shared what i learn

 

[Ass prefer]

just say what i think
this is a forum for discussions

So I am.

 

[anony647]

ok just sharing negativity for nothing
whatever....

 

[Geigi]

ok just sharing negativity for nothing
whatever....

Yes, it's like asking questions and then mocking people for answering your questions.

 

[anony647]

Yes, it's like asking questions and then mocking people for answering your questions.

who did that ?

 

[anony647]

Sensual erotica is porn to women. Otome/Joseimuke, manga/manhwa, drama cds/asmr, books/fanfiction...Booktok is bad just as wattpad. Teen girls writing and reading smut about toxic relationships, abusive partners, and unsafe BDSM practices is cringe and dangerous.

sorry what "wattpad" mean ? sorry english is not my maternal language