Do you do nofap?

[Deleted member 2912657]

Or plan to do it? Temporarily or permanently.

I've been digesting nofap resources like your brain on porn videos or easypeasy methods. They are probably based on junk science.
But they have this idea, that porn addicts will move to more and more "extreme" stuff as they get used to the tame stuff.
Seems it applies to me. I used to consume the normal stuff, pretty girls get fucked and so on.
But now I actively search for shit like incest, shota, lolis, etc.
I'm afraid soon or later, I'll fap to shit like futas or even worse.

What's your opinion?

 

[AlychyaEcfia]

i dont know how to say its like smoking, you know smoking its bad for your health but u still smoking right ? so yea, if u feel something not right happen to you because porn addicts, maybe you should stop xD


Btw sorry for my bad english xD

 

[anne O'nymous]

But now I actively search for shit like incest, shota, lolis, etc.

I don't want to minimize the problem, but when they say "extreme content", they don't mean vanilla stuff like that.
The problem come from the thrill you get while looking porn. Your brain adapt and you need always more for it to have an effect. It's exactly the same that drug habituation, after time, you need a bigger dose to have the same effect. But here, you aren't increasing the dose, you are just changing the drug you take ; therefore you are still in (relatively) safe territory.

To start enter the "extreme zone", your search should be "real incest", and not "shota" or "loli", but effectively underage persons. Then you'll go for things effectively extremes like torture, rape and all. Soft torture and faked rape at first, then you'll need more.

I'm afraid soon or later, I'll fap to shit like futas or even worse.

Why would you fap to things that you clearly don't like ?
A purely straight guy will not suddenly start to fap to gay gangbang rape just because he've seen too much porn in his life. Like he wouldn't fap to none sexualized tortures.

 

[aattss]

I’ve personally never really seen a reason to.

 

[Pretentious Goblin]

I take a practical approach to it, based on the effects i can see on myself: masturbation is a necessity to maintain a clear state of mind and is a fun diversion, but it also costs time and energy, and ejaculation leaves me hungry pretty much immediately. For me, I think the sweet spot will be if I can get to doing it every 3 days instead of every day. Especially since the last time I went 3-4 days without, the next time felt amazing.

In all honesty, if I had a switch to turn my sex drive off, I'd probably just leave it off. It's a bit more trouble than it's worth.

 

[rk-47]

For me its easy to not watch porn/play adult games so i fap pretty rarely but when i do ill go high and fap about 8-10 times in like 2 hours lol

 

[Joshua Tree]

Saw a porn documentary once where a director said the best way to describe progression of porn came down to how many dicks you could insert into an asshole at the same time. Porn at large before internet had silly themes, plots and I guess could be described as "adult B movies" (at best). Even how thin the plot/story was it did add meat on the bones. Nowadays full length porn movies with a story and plot is a rarity. But damn, the progression towards how much you can stuff into cavities gone up radical.

If you water it down to just a M/F scene without any context other than the nut gonna blow. It get fucking boring to keep watch that over and over just with different people. I don't think its necessary people there is something wrong with that keep gravitate towards more and more obscure stuff, it's the quality of adult material out there.

If you watch some vanilla porn and doesn't get excited because you seen it like a million times before, I wouldn't say it's necessary something wrong with you as long as you engine fire on all cylinders when an actual partner start to manhandle you Although the most erotic organ you can have is your brain, if your short circuit and overload on porn could be issues.

Best recipe... Get a good woman, guy, donkey, whatever partner you prefer...

 

[Loganfin]

I think it probably comes down to who you are. Personally, I've fapped to porn the same way for more than 20 years, and largely to the same type of content. (quality is better today, of course). The only difference is that as I get older, I'm not able to do it as often, both due to my own body and real life responsibilties. So instead of 15-20 times a week when I was younger, its more like 5-10 times a week these days. But I enjoy it, and see no reason to stop.

 

[pharal]

As long as certain fantasies remain fantasy, I do not see a problem. I have some rather extreme preferences myself, but I found through the years that I have moved away from just the sex act itself to enjoy the build-up in the story more.
Now if you start to consider doing some of the extremes in fantasy outside in the real world without consent or against the law, then you need to seek help.
Like I said, I am a huge pervert in fantasy land, but just considering doing some of these things IRL or if a get a hint of reality from a video with these subjects, will make me sick and is absolutely an instant turn-off.

What also needs to be said is that you shouldn't diss peoples fetishes. What exactly are you afraid will happen if you start liking futa, other than you now like futa too?
I do not particularly like futa myself, but I absolutely do not see it as better or worse than any other preference.

 

[Volta]

From personal experience i see no problem with any of the adult material mentioned mentioned so far so long as you don't lose your head, it's not like smoking as mentioned a while back IMO, smoking will kill you, slowly but it will, porn not so much.

As far as progression goes i've gone from mild to somewhat extreme back to mild again and appreciate both, just by now i'm not interested in low quality be it extreme or vanilla. I'm fast approaching thirty, i've had a couple of long term relationships which meant long(in one case over three years) periods of no fap and low solo porn use(note that porn with a partner is a different animal entirely than solo porn use).

I do think that if fantasy starts to creep into reality that is when problems start in terms of porn use, especially in cases of non-con, incest and other taboo or problematic content. However that isn't to say that nofap is without it's problems, i've known friends who, once they have stopped using porn, have made significantly worse decisions in terms of relationships, specifically getting into relationships as a snap decision or getting played for saps, simply because they are focussed on sex a lot more than they would be if they had an outlet like porn.

So to that old favourite of mine, moderation in all things, too much of a good thing and too little are both generally bad for you.

 

[Succubus Hunter]

I haven't tried "NoFap" but I can see the mental benefits to it.

I am not going to lie, vanilla porn simply does not turn me on at all. If there's no struggle play and saying mean things than I am Then not interested. I would like to train my brain to be more flexible in terms of kink so that if I am with someone who is, for example into rope, I could somewhat enjoy it with her.

 

[SPACE!man]

I mean, I have a lot of fetishes, but I don't use them all the damn time. Large insertions, belly bulge, a bit of cum inflation (not too much, just a bit), rape and dominance, a good dose of BDSM, I didn't start out with most of these but they're not what I get off to commonly. Having several fetishes, some of which are hardcore, doesn't mean you evolved into them, it just means you found you liked them. It's like eating: You can eat an ice cream, yum, tasty, but if you eat ten of those in your life time you're not gonna suddenly swallow a swimming pool full of steaks, are you?

It is trash science. I mean, I like puppy play. I like guys using horse dildos and fuck machines. But does that mean I like guys prolapsing their assholes with massive dildo fuck machines? NO! (GOD fucking no!) Even real human belly bulge makes me nervous! (they could die if that tears!)

You don't "level-up" into more extreme fetishes, you just discover stuff you didn't know you liked. If you like pussy, you won't suddenly be into dick unless you always wanted it. Likewise, just cos I'm into gangbangs doesn't mean that I don't get off crazy hard to thinking of one-on-one plowing, ya get me?

It's not a matter of being more perverted, it's just a matter of finding out you like new stuff.

 

[woody554]

I'm only interested in the things I'm interested in. over decades there have been some discoveries like milfs, but looking back the signs were there already in my teens. like having almost exclusively older girlfriends and even avoiding girls my age. haven't noticed any shifting that wasn't there to begin with. although if I did, I'd welcome it freely. but it doesn't seem to work like that.

there's a point though for wanting to hear about stuff you're not familiar with. but that's not having a fetish, it's just vanilla curiosity. and sometimes ego-driven wishing of being more 'special' than you really are. we've all gone through that stuff in some form. but my point is we don't consume stories about serial killers because we want to be evil, we do it for the opposite reason, because we're curious about things we don't or can't understand. same with weird sex stuff. you don't have to have the fetish to be curious about it.

I don't think you can get bored of your fetishes, it's not how it works. it's like thinking a straight guy could turn gay by fucking so many women he gets bored with pussy. doesn't work like that, you're attracted to what you're attracted to. the last time you were imprinted with new interests was probably when you were under 5yo. after that you just discover where it leads you.

so if you find yourself getting bored with the porn you used to think was interesting, it never was a fetish for you. it wasn't for you, and now you're done with it and trying new stuff. maybe it is the shemale stuff, maybe it's not, but your strong feelings about it might point to you having fears about things you're feeling about it. or not.

I mean if you feel angry about it, it can't be because you're indifferent to it. maybe you have a bit of interest in dicks in you, it's 2021 and there's nothing wrong with it. most homophobes are closet gays getting angry about things they feel. same with everything else.

so how to know if you have a fetish or you're just curious? the vanilla component of all sex is the actual sex part. so remove that and see if it still gets you excited? if it doesn't, you were in it just for the vanilla sex. which is fine too. but someone with a foot fetish doesn't need to see a footjob to get excited, the feet will do already. someone with a leather fetish doesn't need big rough tom's men fucking each other to jerk off, the leather alone will do. and so on.

nobody can tell consenting adults what they can like in their bedroom. when they do, you tell them go air out their own repressed sexuality somewhere else. if it's missionary position in the dark with the opposite sex you like, that is totally fine. if it's being trapped in a gimp suit while big hairy men shit through a tube in your mouth almost suffocating you, that is totally fine as well. you decide. it's all good.