does consuming porn causes premature ejaculation irl?

[MissCougar]

They're similar to pocket pussy, Easy beat egg (or something like that). Trainer cups in particular are meant to increase the time you last. I usually last more than 40 minutes. When I was 20 I used one of these cups in my "Lonely gooner" period and when I started dating again I was lasting like an hour +. Everything goes back to normal in a few weeks.

I have never heard of this thing, and I'm all knowing about a lot of male toys like the fleshlight and such. Is this thing like some kind of medical thingy or do you grab it from a porn shop? How do you use it to increase your duration? I mean 40m sounds great and all but wow that is a long time to fuck. Almost too long. Ya gonna blow out them vaginas and they'll need a day or two to recover.

 

[DSSAlex]

It can go the other way too. If you crank hog with too vigorous a grip you can train your cock to expect that level of friction and if it doesn't get that then you can't get over the edge.

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

yeah, you’re right. i won’t come back again. i don’t even know why i keep coming back in the first place. it’s like ik it’s not worth it, but something just pulls me in every time. not anymore though. i’m done fr this time

So... we taking bets on response times or what?

I have never heard of this thing, and I'm all knowing about a lot of male toys like the fleshlight and such. Is this thing like some kind of medical thingy or do you grab it from a porn shop? How do you use it to increase your duration? I mean 40m sounds great and all but wow that is a long time to fuck. Almost too long. Ya gonna blow out them vaginas and they'll need a day or two to recover.

It is, never met a girl who wants 40 mins. 40 mins including 4play, definitely. But a few mins with a good warmup and they usually happy, sometimes the warmup alone is enough (basically the warmup is more important than the clapping, the clapping is just the crescendo of a full sonnet). Particularly when some girls get off on a guy getting off...

Guess its complicated, but I swear some guys think girls get themselves off by fisting themselves for an hour (there is probably a few.. but it isnt many). In my experience candles contribute more than fisting.

After a girl has enjoyed herself you got maybe a minute before she starts asking if you are done yet (some even take it personally & get upset like they did something wrong or are ugly.. no joke that happened one time & instead of a fun night I was now in comforting mode with the mood killed explaining they are pretty and its all my fault). Repetition however, that IS useful. Repeat dishes go further than a single buffet.

 

[-lust-]

It's always amazing to see how binary most people think. It's either this or that, never an inbetween.

No, masturbation (to porn or whaterver else) won't lead to premature ejaculation.
Because it's not the fact that you are doing it, but how you are doing it and why you are doing it.


Just because you can jerk out your cum in 5 seconds doesn't mean you will cum by dipping you dick once into the honeypot.
Death-grip syndrome (or dead-vagina syndrom for women) is also a thing, when you're so accustomed to rough mastubation that you can't get it on during sex.

Absolutely agree. Like most thing, there is nuance it's not a binary thing.
To anwser OP though the porn consumption itself prob has little to do with the your ejaculation.. usually it's the masturbation behavior that follows. Porn consumption has other issues, but on impotence? nah.

Like most things, you're body seeks hemostasis so it's seeking to make whatever activity is a habit "normal" and without effort. If the goal of your sesh is in and out, guess what badabing badaboom you done.
On the otherhand, death grip/monkey grip syndrome is very real. Made worse if you edging with it. Makes it near impossible to "remain hard" even in a soaking vagina with a hot girl.

So beware, the extreme of either will leave both you and your partner(s) unsatisfied/frustrated.

 

[MissCougar]

It is, never met a girl who wants 40 mins. 40 mins including 4play, definitely. But a few mins with a good warmup and they usually happy, sometimes the warmup alone is enough (basically the warmup is more important than the clapping, the clapping is just the crescendo of a full sonnet). Particularly when some girls get off on a guy getting off...

Guess its complicated, but I swear some guys think girls get themselves off by fisting themselves for an hour (there is probably a few.. but it isnt many). In my experience candles contribute more than fisting.

After a girl has enjoyed herself you got maybe a minute before she starts asking if you are done yet (some even take it personally & get upset...). Repetition however, that IS useful. Repeat dishes go further than a single buffet.

Ok yes that checks out.

I can go all day for some good foreplay!

For me, vaginal penetration feels ok, but it's a concentration thing to get off from it. For the clit it takes less concentration and is more feeling. Get the girl off first and things are much nicer for both.

Candles and kisses go longer than shoving fingers up there!

Orgasm timing is also true with me too. Once I get off, assuming you are going at it, you have a few minutes while I'm in my throws of pleasure but once that's gone my patience is starting to tick away. And if you don't get off I'm going to start feeling like I'm failing somehow and get self conscious and equally bored of the moment. If it's been going for too long, once that's gone orgasmic extra lubrication is gone, you better be done by then because now you're just racking up friction and pain and I'll be annoyed and chafed later and the next day (if you went above and beyond by way too long ).

Also for me and masturbation in general, I've noticed that if I use a vibrator too much it is harder for me to get off without one. So I use it sparingly. I think the vibration is just way too intense and more than a finger or tongue can do later, so I am careful not to wreck my ability to feel the normal physical way. This is clit stimulation and not vaginal, though. When I'm doing myself the only time I dip a finger in there is for some extra lubrication to keep the clit happy. It otherwise isn't really part of my happy routine.

Hope this was helpful. You appear to be on a good track and doing things right! <3

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

Hope this was helpful. You appear to be on a good track and doing things right! <3

Well, the best thing was a relationship with a woman where we were comfortable enough to be honest. Not many guys will tell a girl she sucks at head when shes going down on them and vice versa. But that communication was key - and you knew you were doing something right when the communication went reeeeeeal quiet.

That & I had a pretty bad whore phase. Not proud of that part of my life.

The best (and most important) thing is escalation. If you start out light, then go heavy, you cant go back. Whole things gotta build, so take more time at the lighter stages (i.e. kisses and touching kneck, knees etc.) then go forwards from there & the heavy parts become easy.

If you get off at the light part though I would say yes, you have premature ejaculation and need to work on that. Although there was a girl I used to hang around with who insisted on sucking a guy off first, so they lasted longer the seconds time (i.e. at the time). Not sure on that though as we were just friends and she enjoyed oversharing with me.

But this is why I always get confused about the comments around dick sized... you can get a girl off with one finger if you do it right.

 

[MissCougar]

Well, the best thing was a relationship with a woman where we were comfortable enough to be honest. Not many guys will tell a girl she sucks at head when shes going down on them and vice versa. But that communication was key - and you knew you were doing something right when the communication went reeeeeeal quiet.

That & I had a pretty bad whore phase. Not proud of that part of my life.

The best (and most important) thing is escalation. If you start out light, then go heavy, you cant go back. Whole things gotta build, so take more time at the lighter stages (i.e. kisses and touching kneck, knees etc.) then go forwards from there & the heavy parts become easy.

If you get off at the light part though I would say yes, you have premature ejaculation and need to work on that. Although there was a girl I used to hang around with who insisted on sucking a guy off first, so they lasted longer the seconds time (i.e. at the time). Not sure on that though as we were just friends and she enjoyed oversharing with me.

But this is why I always get confused about the comments around dick sized... you can get a girl off with one finger if you do it right.

Yup yup yup.

You know what you are talking about!

I do the same thing sometimes if I want sex to last, by starting with a good BJ and letting that slide into the next steps. Usually if I do that, after 5-10m I can probably get some more foreplay, maybe I can get off too, and then I have around 5-10m of good fucking. its nice if I want that kind of investment. Sometimes though I just also like it to be fast, I enjoy to get it over with and have the fun feelings without needing to waste an hour at it.

But yeah, I learned a lot too. Like the head of the dick is like your clit, and the neck of it doesn't do much for you. Once I learned that my blowjobs got much better I think! I still dont know what the balls do really for pleasure and I have never tried to find the male g-spot because I just have no idea what that's all about, so maybe you can educate me some on if it's worth it or if it's just because guys like butt stuff.

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

Yup yup yup.

You know what you are talking about!

I do the same thing sometimes if I want sex to last, by starting with a good BJ and letting that slide into the next steps. Usually if I do that, after 5-10m I can probably get some more foreplay, maybe I can get off too, and then I have around 5-10m of good fucking. its nice if I want that kind of investment. Sometimes though I just also like it to be fast, I enjoy to get it over with and have the fun feelings without needing to waste an hour at it.

But yeah, I learned a lot too. Like the head of the dick is like your clit, and the neck of it doesn't do much for you. Once I learned that my blowjobs got much better I think! I still dont know what the balls do really for pleasure and I have never tried to find the male g-spot because I just have no idea what that's all about, so maybe you can educate me some on if it's worth it or if it's just because guys like butt stuff.

No idea on the male Gspot sorry, I am a very effeminate man who 100% likes women (as I say every time someone asks me if I am gay... I wish, my life would be simpler ). I can tell you butt stuff with a girl is over-rated, outside of the power/dominance fetish you really are just fucking a bottle

I did have a funny argument with a friend once about g-spots, a guy friend was saying there is no such thing, and I said there is, its a little to the left and abit in there (maybe nearly a finger). My other friend started to argue and she said 'no its slightly on the right'. We argued for like a minute before I realized the guys left is the girls right .

Re a dick - depends, everyone assumes the head is the most important, when if you think about it the point on the shaft that is in frequent contact with the tight part of a VJ during sex is arguably just as (if not more) important (like a coal minor never forget to work the shaft! but at the grip of a VJ). Also I have been with girls whos clit was too sensitive to touch (it was a turn off, and no they didn't have syphilis were just that way naturally), so I'd assume the same to be true of some men. With those women it was a case of 'playing to field' so to speak haha (basically I used all the cheat cards like a gentle touch on the back of the neck back up with eventual heavy breathing). Wasnt easy, but enough foreplay and again the rest sorted itself out.

Balls I think is a fetish thing (cant really comment not for me) but gooch is good if done right (like back of a girls neck if they have long hair its hyper sensitive so a good heavy breathing through to light/medium touch can go a long way). Tossing salad can be nice but that isn't for everyone & if not prepared properly... well don't dive into that one.

Edit: Gay friends have confirmed the prostate is 100% a g spot, but its also an almost (if I remember correctly etiquette is you are meant to reach around at the same time). Could be wrong, that particular conversation was a long time ago.

 

[anne O'nymous]

Hope this was helpful.

 

[MissCougar]

No idea on the male Gspot sorry, I am a very effeminate man who 100% likes women (as I say every time someone asks me if I am gay... I wish, my life would be simpler ). I can tell you butt stuff with a girl is over-rated, outside of the power/dominance fetish you really are just fucking a bottle

I did have a funny argument with a friend once about g-spots, a guy friend was saying there is no such thing, and I said there is, its a little to the left and abit in there (maybe nearly a finger). My other friend started to argue and she said 'no its slightly on the right'. We argued for like a minute before I realized the guys left is the girls right .

Re a dick - depends, everyone assumes the head is the most important, when if you think about it the point on the shaft that is in frequent contact with the tight part of a VJ during sex is arguably just as (if not more) important (like a coal minor never forget to work the shaft! but at the grip of a VJ). Also I have been with girls whos clit was too sensitive to touch (it was a turn off, and no they didn't have syphilis were just that way naturally), so I'd assume the same to be true of some men. With those women it was a case of 'playing to field' so to speak haha (basically I used all the cheat cards like a gentle touch on the back of the neck back up with eventual heavy breathing). Wasnt easy, but enough foreplay and again the rest sorted itself out.

Balls I think is a fetish thing (cant really comment not for me) but gooch is good if done right (like back of a girls neck if they have long hair its hyper sensitive so a good heavy breathing through to light/medium touch can go a long way). Tossing salad can be nice but that isn't for everyone & if not prepared properly... well don't dive into that one.

Edit: Gay friends have confirmed the prostate is 100% a g spot, but its also an almost (if I remember correctly etiquette is you are meant to reach around at the same time). Could be wrong, that particular conversation was a long time ago.

Mmmhmm.

So I've never gone searching for my own g spot so I actually don't know which side it May or may not be on. That whole area is just not really where the pleasure goes and if I have to search for something it's too much concentration. Maybe I'll try to poke around for it but...

My clit is tiny and also super sensitive. I have to rub the hood for the most part. Every so often I don't mind a swish or push directly on it, but it is sensitive that if attacked directly it is painful and uncomfortable. I know I'm not alone in that, but it is tough for guys to understand that but of biology because all the teaching seems to "go for the button" and it's like nooo, don't go for the button! Go for around the button.

And honestly once I'm aroused my whole body becomes touch sensitive. Anywhere is super sexy. Behind my ears, the backs of my legs and knees, along my thighs, everything is on fire and everything feels good. Outside of lengthy foreplay, a good way to get my engines started is to mess with my boobs too. My nipples feel good to be played with, but the whole rest of the tit itself is just like my arm or something so it's not this wild erogenous zone in and of itself unless I'm in the mood.

 

[Jaike]

Also, why are so many people so fixated that masturbation and sex are the same?

I think you're allowed to read that as confessions about their own "status". The court admits that.

I hear your peepee falls off and you go blind. Sometimes simultaneously. Oh and you go to hell. Dont overlook that last one. Just you, Satan, eternal damnation, and your own special cum soaked floor of the afterlife where everyone gargles each others non-stop semen fountains while Dante struggles to get the the next level as fast as possible.

If it's more like F95zone, and tagged, badged and prefixed, Bosch may be a better model for a...
Dark vision of F95zone Hell:

 

[Deleted member 8704544]

As someone who is more into the forum and the exchange of ideas than actually masturbating to every single H game I download (sounds counter-intuitive but it's true, I don't play most games for fapping), I think you need to take a break and reflect.

You say it's not worth it to visit this website and I presume you must mean porn in general, and for the mental health of a lot of people it probably isn't. But true power in my opinion comes from having complete control over your impulses. I can spend literally the entire day on here and not end up masturbating. I just like to gain an understanding on how people approach sexuality and ultimately to understand myself too.

If you think you are masturbating too much, whether that causes premature ejaculation or not, it's clearly something that's bothering you. Reflect on that. A website is a tool, it's what you choose to do with the tool that makes it malicious.

i 100% agree w/you. i need to control my impulses and work on myself instead of blaming other factors. maybe i should minimize the consumption of anything that triggers these impulses and start working on my self (like meditating, working out often, doing my clg work, etc.). thanks for the advice man!

 

[Isudo]

As far as I know, masturbating too much is healthier (although not ideal), than actually not masturbating enough. Because even if you are just watching this shit all day in here, there's stuff in you balls that's accumulating and wants to come out, and it's healthy if you let it often, and very unhealthy if you are not doing that. You have to understand something. It's not masturbation that's wrong, it's watching porn that you shouldn't do. Masturbation is something natural that's been around forever, and porn is something introduced recently that ruins our society.

I don't think premature ejaculation is the cause of watching porn. What watching porn can do to you, is to lose interest in sex whatsoever, to the point that if you manage to get in bed with someone, you can experience erectile disfunction, because you are so used to seeing hard stuff on the internet, that seeing a normal naked person does not do it for you anymore. Premature ejaculation may be caused by the fact that you are simply young and overly exposed to thinking about sex. I don't blame anyone, because there is so much stuff on the internet about that, that it's hard not to see it even if you don't want to.

 

[eaudecologne]

As far as I know, masturbating too much is healthier (although not ideal), than actually not masturbating enough. Because even if you are just watching this shit all day in here, there's stuff in you balls that's accumulating and wants to come out, and it's healthy if you let it often, and very unhealthy if you are not doing that.

There's stuff in my balls? And it wants to come out? What's gonna happen if I don't jerk off 3 times a day bro

 

[anne O'nymous]

Well...



It's just that there's really long days where I live

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

Well...

The cool kids say 'Fr Fr' now, so guess he half done.