Pretty much everyone here enjoys the game and wants to see it succeed. Its not being hysterical to voice concerns about dev issues that we can see in repeated patterns, especially when these issues aren't impossible to solve. Its a big project for 2 people, I don't doubt that its caused them more than its fair share of stress, but there are ways to deal with that.
FET has been one of my favorite porn games since I first discovered it right when the slave route of book 2 was still in development, I've given a pretty decent chunk of cash to support it and overall Im glad with how the game has turned out thus far. Doesn't mean I think everything is perfect.
I'm always wary of the mindset of "You aren't allowed to complain it'll be out when its out", which is especially prevalent on Patreon, because it can encourage devs to coast along and cash checks purely on peoples goodwill with virtually no real need to provide any substantial content for long periods of time. It just bugs me when people treat anything other than blind support as being greedy/entitled/overdramatic/etc.
And the issue isn't just delays, its that most of the time we're left in the dark as to why we're still waiting on an update that was 80% done weeks ago? Writers block? Okay, is there any progress being made on that front? Maybe let the Artist finish up the writing for the update? He does do some of the writing anyway, I don't think the quality of the writing would drop much for one update or cripple the game as a whole (while the coder/writer gets back in the groove) And its not like this is the first time something like this has happened.
Thats fine if you have no issue with waiting indefinitely but don't assume everyone thinks the same way. To be honest I wouldn't have an issue if they announced they were just going to take a break for a few months to rest and recharge, so long as they either paused their patreon or do what they did last time there was a long delay, which was anyone who pledged during that period or just before got the update regardless of what, if any, they pledged the month the update was released. At least it would be clearly communicated and understood. I would hope that they might take some of that time to take a look at what had been giving them issues and to see what they could do to address them, but thats just a hope.
The worlds gonna keep spinning regardless of if the update comes out tomorrow or never, but I can still discuss it on a discussion board.