Quite a few female protagonist games allow you to play good or bad. Good Girl Gone Bad and Zoe's Temptations are the two that immediately come to mind, but most games that have a corruption tag allow a romantic route and a darker domination route. Usually, since most game devs are really novice writers, those domination routes are DARK not just domination related, whereas the romance routes try to remain fluffy, meaining there's little nuance and you don't have the level of grey to operate in that you might like in say a KOTOR-ME:3 era Bioware title, but you do have a dark and a light path.
One game that comes to mind, and most people will tell you is depressing and has very little overt sexual content, at least as of my last playig, is Dual Family. At one point it gives you the explicit option to continue as a "Max"-like pervert who will inevitably end up hurting the people he loves or to change his ways and be more mature in his pursuits. It is a game that, narrative-wise, I really like, but haven't gone back to in a while, because the scope is so large that it develops really slowly, and I'd rather come back when there's more, which there may be by now, judging by the fact that I haven't really touched it since like February or March.
Dreams of Desire has a mind control aspect to it, and you can either use it in dominant ways, forcing people to be your little sex dolls, or you can use it in a more subtle way, to simply remove inhibitions from people and allow them to come to you willingly. Particularly, with your little sister Alice, the choice you're presented with when you first use your power on her is "Be my slave" or "When you finally decide to do sexual things, only do them with someone you truly love". As a result, I view, as far as mind control goes, the one choice as definitively an evil use of your power and the other as a manipulation, but one that doesn't have ill intent. It doesn't force her to do anything she doesn't want to, and when she comes to you as a result of it, it's because she truly loves you, not because you made her choose you.