Higher Standards IRL After Porn Games?

[TentacleVillain]

Does anyone feel like they have higher standards in their real lives, when dealing with sexual situations, after being exposed to porn games for a while?

For example, I know there are people who get so impulsive that they will run to dirty ass bathrooms to bang or who will get with someone they otherwise personally wouldn't if they weren't so horny.

Does anyone feel as if being exposed to a lot of high quality porn games has somehow raised their standards in real life?

If so, do you think that this is something that is specific to porn games? Or could all types of porn potentially lead to the same results?

 

[Avaron1974]

It didn't matter how high my standards might have been growing up I was a lesbian in a town with very few lesbians.

3 to be precise.

Fortunately they didn't look like swamp monsters but it was slim pickings and like a game of tag, break up and try and date the single, tag you're my girlfriend now.

That aside these games have had no bearing on my love life. I've been with my current girlfriend for several years now.

I will say some of these games helped me through a shitty time of my life when I first came out. My family didn't react well and I moved in with my aunt and played Tlaero and Phreaky's games then the Elsaverse ones and it my first introduction to adult games and gave me characters to invest in to take my mind of things.

I don't know if porn/adult games raised my standards but I do know I didn't go out to meet women in clubs and shit as much. If I was horny I did stay in with a game or porn and that did lead to me getting with my girlfriend so if it did help I have nothing but gratitude for it.

 

[TentacleVillain]

Wow, that sounds difficult. I couldn't imagine what growing up like that must have been like, especially to have family turn against you like that. I'm happy to hear you've found someone and I hope that means everything is going well and I hope it stays going well.

 

[woody554]

not really.

but I imagine it might help people get familiar with less obvious sides of their sexuality. things they would flat out refuse in real life because they thought or were taught to think they're 'not that guy/girl'. maybe they're straight, but find out they kinda like watching chicks with dicks. or maybe they find out they'd like to get humiliated, something they were always taught was abusive and bad. in the porn world there's always tons of people who share your weird kink, and most of them are pretty normal decent people. maybe suddenly you don't feel like a freak anymore. -of course there are always some people kink shaming you as well, but those are a small majority. most people are fine with your kinks, even if they don't share them. so you end up liking yourself more and enjoying freely whatever consenting adults want to do in their own home. I can't see much downside to that.

getting better sex is kinda different thing though, and I think it comes more out of aging and experience. when you're young you don't really know or understand shit. you just go straight to the penetration, and maybe think a lot of positions or uncomfortable places mean 'good sex'. but with age you come to appreciate everything around it, the anticipation, nuances, the subtle touch. and so you actually start getting better at it. people who are great at sex are also great doing missionary with their wife. it's not about memorizing kama sutra or checking boxes.

you also begin to pay less attention to superficial things you thought you wanted when you were young. because even though you maybe love big tits, you meet people who don't have them and find out they're amazing in bed. while the girl with big tits maybe wasn't. and so you lose one by one those preconceived ideas you thought you REQUIRED when you were young. like maybe you thought you liked slim model girls, because it just makes sense. right? but then you one meet a really fat girl, who somehow manages to be incredibly cute. and it's not that you suddenly got a chubby chaser kink, but you find out it wasn't the dealbreaker you always thought it was.

based on my own experience, it's unlikely you get more restrictive with your choices as you gain experience. instead you get more open, more receptive for good experiences.

 

[desmosome]

Sure, my standards have risen considerably. I no longer accept any non-virgins. They are just whores who is looking to NTR me. I cut ties with my family because I couldn't stand being NTRed by my mom who STILL has sex with my dad. Unbelievable. My sis had boyfriends and that is no good. Even my previous girlfriends had exes. Damn sluts. No more. My standards are too high for that shit now. Thanks F95zone.

 

[Biceptual]

Yes, I am no longer patient with women whose conversation speed I cannot adjust, or with whom I can't left click on the screen to go back and find out what question they just asked.

 

[freedom.call]

I tend to go 'OMG! NIPPLE!' and run like hell. So no, higher not so much.

 

[Avaron1974]

Wow, that sounds difficult. I couldn't imagine what growing up like that must have been like, especially to have family turn against you like that. I'm happy to hear you've found someone and I hope that means everything is going well and I hope it stays going well.

Oh, yeah, everything is fantastic now thankyou.

Just a blip in my teens is all. Parents are heavily religious so having a gay daughter didn't go down well. Me and my twin moved in with our aunt when it got rough and she's amazing so it was all up from there.

Never got into the party scene much though with working as a chef (shitty hours not good for socialising) so me and porn got to know each other very well.

Met my girlfriend a few years back, moved in together and turned ourselves into crazy cat ladies so anyone that says porn is evil lies.

 

[God3333]

It definitely can. Obviously porn can hurt your expectations of sex etc. Most men think having a 5-6 incher is small, but it's not really. Porn can enforce untrue stereotypes, but as long as you understand that it's not really like that then your good. When your a kid it can be harmful, I mean for me we just had like magazines and some pictures, but it never really hurt my idea of sex. I think it does change your outlook but once you get into a good relationship and get rid of the big bad virginity you tend to undo a bit of that, at least for me anyway.

 

[rk-47]

Not really and i guess same question can be applied to actual porn too, i suppose it would actually make you more determined to better yourself perhaps i.e last longer and harder and therefore you may find yourself practicing maintaining an erection when masturbating when before youd just bust a nut straight away, i also think you could get experience too such as seeing all sorts of different new positions that you could apply in real life
replying to God3333 5 inches seems to be the average altho im not sure many men see it as being small especially when this figure is shown to them, plus if you know porn tends to edit/oversize penises on the videos/pics then youll see that its pretty funny

 

[Succubus Hunter]

I think porn and even moreso porn games can raise a person's standards for the better. In-game the characters are generally honest, adhere to the social contract, and portrays a sex-positive social environment where everyone is on your wavelength. If you look beyond the sex scenes and look at the community culture in these games, you generally see that they portray a healthy dynamic. Even in games portraying "Rape", "Reverse-Rape", and other hard fetishes, they context outside of those scenes still reflects a dynamic of warmth.

As for the meta-dynamic, the online community can also help people for the better. For one, the forums on this and other sites are full of helpful users. I have seen people do everything from helping people find secrets in games to even putting countless hours into translating games -for free. There have even been a few users who made fan games based on such gems as Tower of Trample and Monster Girl Quest - Also for no money. In addition to that, I have seen these forums be places where users experienced in an irl kink can pass knowlage along to newbies. Such knowlage can at least make engaging in that fetish much better or at most help prevent newbies from making serious mistakes. I also think these forums can be a good outlet to talk about less than healthy dynamics one might have been brought up in and even encouraged to utilize other resorces. One of the biggest misconceptions is that the vanilla dynamic is healthy and everything is just fine unless the big bad boogeyman called "Sexuality" gets in the way.

 

[Zakutsa]

Here to speak out my mind, it kinda did changed my standards in my early 20s when I was playing eroge games and watching porn videos. I had this expectation to find a woman with curves and big tits and whatnot. But then I realize it's very bad to see women just as sex objects. It's especially true when it comes to dating. I had flings and on/off relationship with my ex for 3 years.

Still the past is the past. I'm currently happy being single and jacking off from the latest games I play here.

 

[Pretentious Goblin]

I'm housebound, depressed and with rock-bottom self-esteem and would give it a try with anyone 18-50 who expressed an interest (which I'm sure no one will before I ctb). Only other standard I have is no hateful ideology. I know my own appeal is very low and so I set my expectations accordingly.

I'm sure this type of game / porn in general is relatively harmless to a normal person, but when it's the main/only type of stimulation you ever experience, it's bound to have an impact; possibly even shaping what appeals to you long-term if you start with it early enough in life and have no "normal" sex life as a counterpoint.