how do you figure out what's right or wrong for you?

[Deleted member 8704544]

i’ve been sitting with a lot of conflicted feelings lately. there’s this part of me that keeps saying i should keep doing something, even if it leaves me feeling empty/miserable afterward. but then there’s this quieter part that tells me it’s not helping me, that i’m only making things worse by holding on

idk which voice to trust. both feel real, but they lead in completely different directions. and when i get stuck in that back & forth, it wears me down in a way that’s hard to explain. sometimes i even end up breaking down, wondering what i’m even doing with my life. this isn’t how i thought things would go, and now idk how to tell which part of me is right. how do you know which voice is actually trying to help?

 

[Insomnimaniac Games]

You lied to me.

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

You lied to me.

To all of us.

how to tell which part of me is right. how do you know which voice is actually trying to help?

Stop looking for wisdom on a porn site. Beginning, middle and end of conversation. Go speak to a professional.

 

[Nadekai]

You lied to me.

You lied to me too...
How could've you...

 

[Insomnimaniac Games]

You lied to me too...
How could've you...

How dare! I never lied!

 

[eaudecologne]

Read neetzsche bro.. you'll figure it out

 

[fyl3toys]

At this point in my life what I do is think about how much time I have left on this earth, and do I really wanna waste it on something I dont like or isn't helping me.

 

[anne O'nymous]

At this point in my life what I do is think about how much time I have left on this earth, and do I really wanna waste it on something I dont like or isn't helping me.

 

[fyl3toys]

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[Canto Forte]

Step one: Play a Harem Game: Granma House, Motherless - absolute goated full blown Dopamine Overdose games!

Step two: ponder your feelings: do I feel good being a go getter and go experience all range of emotions ?

Answer to yourself: Yes - listen to your quieter voice and go experience the new life of trying something else: even lack of the emotion is a novelty over going on with also a huge doubt in yourself and a self serving emotion that also drains you.

Conclusion: This is the absolute win-win-world domination route: you stop letting emotions and a quieter voice, on top of that, run your life into the ground. You rise up! For your own sake! Fight for your well-being! Defeat your older self and come out on top of the world!
R I S E . . U P !!!!!!
YVES LA ROCK - RISE UP
Ian Carey feat. Michelle Shellers - Keep On Rising
VINAI - RISE UP
R.I.O. - Shine On

i’ve been sitting with a lot of conflicted feelings lately

R I S E!
R I S E !
R I S E!
Keep on rising!

 

[Icarus Media]

Read neetzsche bro.. you'll figure it out

It's 'Nietzsche' and far better to read Schopenhauer.

 

[MissCougar]

If it's related to this site- just stop posting/coming in. I think you are the person who wants to quit or did quit like a bunch of times now. I guess do that.

Next, find some actual professional help. If that's too expensive, copy the whole mess into ChatGPT except add to it "Tell me like it is in the voice of Papa John the pizza person because I need a good pizza with my angst." See if that works.

 

[lamba]

It's 'Nietzsche' and far better to read Schopenhauer.

Hrm....

At this point in my life what I do is think about how much time I have left on this earth, and do I really wanna waste it on something I dont like or isn't helping me.

The kind of person who wants to live forever wouldn't know what to do with themselves on a rainy Saturday.

i’ve been sitting with a lot of conflicted feelings lately. there’s this part of me that keeps saying i should keep doing something, even if it leaves me feeling empty/miserable afterward. but then there’s this quieter part that tells me it’s not helping me, that i’m only making things worse by holding on

idk which voice to trust. both feel real, but they lead in completely different directions. and when i get stuck in that back & forth, it wears me down in a way that’s hard to explain. sometimes i even end up breaking down, wondering what i’m even doing with my life. this isn’t how i thought things would go, and now idk how to tell which part of me is right. how do you know which voice is actually trying to help?

When in doubt use game theory.

Assign a mathematical value to what you get out of doing something. Compare that value to the value of what you'd get from doing something else. It can't be nothing, it does have to be something, but consider how else you'd be spending your time.

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

Assign a mathematical value to what you get out of doing something. Compare that value to the value of what you'd get from doing something else. It can't be nothing, it does have to be something, but consider how else you'd be spending your time.

Problem is, based on the pattern I am pretty sure how the OP wants to be spending time changes...

The Pattern seems to be -
1) Gets horny
2) Goons
3) Yells "What have I done! I am going to change!" - then starts a thread about it
4) Return to step 1

Its like goonhog day.

 

[Doorknob22]

...then there’s this quieter part that tells me it’s not helping me, that i’m only making things worse by holding on
...

That voice it probably the voice of reason and sanity, a lighthouse for a better you and a better future for you. You should probably follow its advice.

Good luck!

 

[Icarus Media]

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Hrm....

Does the presence of one paragraph therefore invalidate the other things he says?

I have found some to be of the mindset that they are willing to eradicate nine tenths of consideration of a persons statements because of the one tenth they did not personally agree with. I may not believe some of the things Mao, Stalin, Ceausescu, Pol Pot, Hitler have said and done (and apologies to the late Schopenhauer for the implication of putting him in their company). But even the most vitriolic of haters would be foolish if stood, on a Sunday evening, next to Hitler, putting their fingers in their ears and humming "La La La I can't hear you" when he only remarks that it is Sunday and is getting dark.

I once slammed shut and refused to read any further of 'The God Delusion' by Richard Dawkins, namely not so much for the idea there isn't one, but for the sheer arrogance and self assurance he had in a claim that by nature cannot be confirmed, it is fair to say that I do not like what he says nor the personality he comes across with in advocating it, YET I continued on despite my earlier refusal, because I wished to see what else he says and subsequently whether other statements were more of interest or resonated with me, for example his avocation that religious education in one sole religion to the detriment of all others whilst a child amounts to abuse and a form of indoctrination. Had I not carried on and simply abandoned all listening to him for the first seemingly way he advocated something I didn't like to both hear and the way it was done, I would not have discovered that latter fact which made me think and subsequently simmered my earlier dislike of him.

 

[anne O'nymous]

I think you are the person who wants to quit or did quit like a bunch of times now.

He is. But I'm not sure that quitting is the best solution for him; to be fair, nor like staying is...
After so many "I leave" attempt, it's clear that coming here fill a void, or respond to a need, so just quitting would leave him with it without the diversion that this forum is. He should first identify, at least partly, the reason why he need this distraction, and he can't do this alone; nor by talking here.

What lead to your:

Next, find some actual professional help.

That is what he should do.

 

[suprisedcrankyface]

He is. But I'm not sure that quitting is the best solution for him; to be fair, nor like staying is...
After so many "I leave" attempt, it's clear that coming here fill a void, or respond to a need, so just quitting would leave him with it without the diversion that this forum is. He should first identify, at least partly, the reason why he need this distraction, and he can't do this alone; nor by talking here.

One of the biggest things to break an addiction is changing the behaviors outside of the addiction - i.e. if you want to drink less alcohol you don't just 'stop drinking', you need to break your pattern of behavior 'I come home, get a drink, sit-down and watch some TV before dinner'. You need to stop sitting down and watching TV before dinner just as much as you need to stop drinking.

So Mr OP, if you want to quit, you need to look at the patterns that lead you here, and change them (take up a new hobby, read a book, go for walks) anything that breaks the pattern of behavior.

That and Go speak to a professional, or at the very least buy a self-help book.

 

[anne O'nymous]

One of the biggest things to break an addiction is changing the behaviors outside of the addiction

Will you, for once, answer to what is wrote, and not to what you made up in your mind?

At no time did I said, nor implied, not even vaguely, that it was a question of addiction; unlike you, I chosen my words wisely, precisely to not point to this misleading direction. The fact that he's able to make small stops, what he demonstrated probably without noticing that it's what he did, prove that it's not a question of addiction, but of pure coping.
Therefore replacing this forum by something else will do nothing. He will not come here anymore, but still "suffer" (in a lax meaning of the word) from what made him use this place as distraction/evasion. Except that, if it's a less problematic occupation, he will care less about it and therefore not anymore want to "heal" (here again, lax meaning).

 

[Deleted member 8704544]

So Mr OP, if you want to quit, you need to look at the patterns that lead you here, and change them (take up a new hobby, read a book, go for walks) anything that breaks the pattern of behavior.

That and Go speak to a professional, or at the very least buy a self-help book.

i've been reading up on existentialist thinkers like the ones in pic rel. i’m trying anything i can to understand myself a bit better