[...] And the answer was that those are just fantasies meanwhile cheating is a real thing and it's gonna influence people, normalize cheating etc etc. it seems kinda silly to me but they seemed to believe it
Scat isn't a fantasy. I remember two girls...
But let's break down their excuse, and opposite it to what they play and promote, harem games:
For girls to be influenced and think that cheating is normal, she need to play NTR games.
Most of them will not do it. Not because girls are innocent and don't play porn games, but because those games tend to be raw when it come to sex. It's straight corruption, while most girls prefer a more romantic setup.
For boys to be influenced and think that stealing someone's girl is nomal, he need to play a harem game.
In those games you don't care if there's a boy in the picture, most of the time you don't even ask. As long as you don't see him having sex with the girl he's with, it's good for them.
Take incest harem games by example. Who care if the father is still in the picture. Who care if the sisters have a boyfriend or not. It's even frequent that you cockblock the father, or mother's future boyfriend, or your sister's boyfriend. And of course you'll convince the girl to breakup, or at least stop having sex with him.
Boys who play those games are taught that as long as you like the girl, nothing else matters. She must be yours, this whatever if she's in a relationship or not.
It's the games they play and promote that are a threat for them. It's because of those games that boys come to their girls, tempt them, then fuck them. What a good way to fire a bullet in your own foot...
idk I've never been cheated on, maybe there's a lot of traumatised people out there that's why they're sensitive to it?
I can understand that someone who had a bad breakup because (s)he was cheated on can not like NTR, and possibly hate the feeling that it trigger.
But it still feel ridiculous for them to overreact to the point that they hate the whole genre by itself. It's masochism at its finest, where you can't live without thinking about wht hurt you...