- Jun 8, 2019
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I'm going to start off saying that I don't know this dev & I've never played this game. I don't know if it's a made up desperate story to motivate people to donate out of pity. I don't think there's a way we can know for sure. So it's just a matter of choice whether you doubt him or believe him.To me the main issue is, that you basically asked subscribers to invest money into convincing your future wife that she allows you to work on the game. Its not a "Pay me or no product" imo, because none of us knows your wife. Maybe you would need to make 10k a month for her to allow it, so the money could be "wasted" as it doesn't necessarily change the outcome. Also given how certain types of women are into public figures I wouldn't rule out, that basically no amount of money would change her opinion. But you know her better than we do, so based on your call for money, it feels like she's more focused on the money than if that kind of "job/hobby" is acceptable for her.
Also as a few people already said, everyone has seen some scams be running in this space, like "I'm sick and need money for medical bills, please stay subscribe" and then they dipped, so even if it feels bad for the one or two genuine cases, I can see that a lot people will be sceptical about your approach and giving you money.
You wanting to come clean to her before marriage is btw imo the correct approach.
So I basically just want to say, that from the outside it looks worse than you probably think it is, as you know your intentions. Makes it easy to get caught up in thinking you're doing it the right way and not understanding that others may get upset or sceptical about it.
Also just my two cents, but if you say, that the game gives you some freedom, as you have to act a certain way as a public figure, you should maybe figure out what person your girlfriend wants to marry, because if she doesn't know all of this and is basically in love with the public figure, chances are good, that you basically go with "acting" like someone you not really are for the sake of the marriage in your future. I get, that the public figure job probably pays well, so staying in that, is imo fine. I'd rather act 8 hours and getting paid decently, than being poor. But then I want to be myself in my free time, not act the same way for my spouse.
I just hope you make a decision that makes you happy. Whatever the decision in the end will be.
The impression I'm getting is that the game is a secret personal project that he has put a lot of effort into and really wants to make it a success. -- I don't have a problem with someone who is working hard, building skills & trying to build something that they are passionate about. Even if it's done in secret. I don't believe that being in a relationship means you can't work on a secret project to bring in money (as long as it's legal).
But he's realizing that it's eating up a lot of time, so he needs to justify the time expenditure to his partner. This makes sense, because being in a relationship is like being on a team. Is the time you're putting in & the money you make worth it for the team? He realizes this is not a decision he can make alone, so he's going to come clean about this to the girlfriend AND give her the final say about what he should do. -- I'd say that's very responsible, because I believe that you should have the freedom to pursue your own projects even if you don't know whether or not you will succeed & you don't know how much time it will take. Upon realizing the time the project is taking, he's giving the girlfriend the power to decide the project's fate because it's conflicting with available time he has to spend with the girlfriend. That's very considerate.
He is NOT saying that if he fails to get more funding, the project will be shut down. He doesn't know how the girlfriend will take the news. He's just trying to explain his situation to us and what's at stake for him. For all we know, she might allow him to continue even if he doesn't get a significant increase in funding. Obviously if there's more funding, he can better justify the time expenditure on the project.
Either way, I hope that his girlfriend can understand that he's worked very hard on this, but he's willing to put his relationship with her above his own interests
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