Explain why you like your fetish

[cafenoir]

I like NTR (which party doesn't matter), femdom, maledom, incest. After a self analyse here why I think this appeal to me.

The thought of doing something forbidden is arousing. There is something exhilarating to do stuff you are not supposed to do. Binge watch a serie when you are supposed to study, eat snack when you are not supposed to. Following that pattern. Love is supposed to be unbreakable. So it's arousing that the lust for sex slowly overcome the feeling of love. This is why I don't like when the cheating happen to fast. I have to feel the strength the realness of the love to feel how wrong, why it shouldn't happen yet does. (I'm not fan of it but I guess that's why NTR is paired with ugly bastard. Since a downgrade in the partner is also felt as wrong, liking sex so much appearance doesn't matter)

SImilarly for dom stuff, I like the corruption part. When you are being dommed against your will. You disliking it untill you find pleasure. Same thing when you dye an unwilling sheet of white paper. You or the other person, isn't supposed to like

Same reason for incest. I find it easier to fall into. Since there less need for context. The context being self explanatory about why it's wrong why you shouldn't do it.

Here was my thought. I have to precise I don't have huge drive to experience it myself. Especially incest it just doesn't do anything IRL. What about you? What kind of fetish do you have and why?

 

[Obscure]

There is a soft flowy matrix of human drama. Walls of murky implications, suggestions and insinuations. Lies so faint that no one knows they are there. Truths so subtle they pass without notice despite being utterly devastating.

It's a whole layer of reality above any layer of reality I am comfortable living on.

But that layer of reality allows you to see further away from yourself. You can faintly see what someone you know well was doing an hour ago or will be doing in an hour based on the tiniest of clues.

You can see vague outlines of what is hidden and make guesses about them.

But you can't exactly punch someone in the face for the vaguest of suggestions of things that might be. All of this information that you are taking in that you can't act on.

And it terrifies me.

Now women... Love this layer of reality. To the point they try to spread it further outwards with petty gossip and try to manipulate it's fabric to bring destruction to their foes.

This bewilders me.

That is why I like the NTR and the Feminine Malice. Because they basically live in this incomprehensible soup of conjecture. So I have the urge to gnaw on these things. To look at them from all angles. To at least find the outline of the thing.

 

[Hagatagar]

I like incest (in other media too), but the taboo aspect is only a rather small part of it.
The love and attraction between close relatives feels much more intimate and meaningful to me. And of course it's also that one is even willing to break the taboo imposed by society, despite the threat of being exposed and ready in becoming a pariah.
So it's not "Because she's my sister." it's "Even though she's my sister.".
But this is almost never an aspect of porn.

Also since in porn games hardly anyone seems to care if someone fucks their own sister/mother/daughter, incest is not a real taboo.



And to be honest, I'd be more interested to know if anyone doesn't like their own fetish/kinks and why that is.

 

[Meaning Less]

So it's not "Because she's my sister." it's "Even though she's my sister.".
But this is almost never an aspect of porn.

Weird of you to say that, In my mind that's always the case with incest. The characters are always "even though I shouldn't, I want to".

But certainly there are more variables than just what is forbidden, for instance many fetishes can be an acquired taste. I never had a thing with feet but after watching enough feet porn I learned to enjoy them and sometimes it can be hotter than any other body part. And there isn't any taboo with feet unless you want to make it a taboo.

To me kinks also have different effects depending on my level of horniness and what my dick is looking for that day. Even simple things like 2D or 3D graphics have an effect on intensity depending on the day of the week and what I was looking for.

It is also funny how intensity can be cyclical, you start with vanilla then you go a lot deeper but when you notice you are all the way back to the most softcore porn like downblouse and that is the one thing making your dick happier that day.

In other words, I can't explain why I like certain fetishes because my dick is in control and his tastes change from week to week, I just follow his lead.

 

[anne O'nymous]

If you can explain why you like this or that, then is it really a fetish ?

I know what my favorite dishes are, what my favorite color is, but how the hell could I be able to explain why with other words than "because it's the one I prefer" ?
Of course, there's the memories that can possibly come with it, this dish being my favorite because each time I eat it it remind me of my youth, when my mother was doing it. But if those memories exist, if they are this strong, it's because at this time it was already my favorite. My mother did other dishes, some way more frequently, and eating them now trigger nothing in me, awakening no memories.
Of course, there's possibly others reason. But if a dish is your favorite because it's "so fancy", is it really the dish that you like, or what it make you looks like ?

And the same apply for fetishes.
I know that have a strong liking for, hmm, "glance at the forbidden". It's not voyeurism, I don't want to see at women undressing, or doing things naked or with few clothes. I also don't want to look under their skirt or down in their cleavage. What trigger me is the view that shouldn't happen. The skirt lifted by the wind, the blouse one button too loose that reveal the breast if the girl bend a little too much.
I also know when it started, the mid 80's and their one piece swimsuit design that made the boobs appear when the girl took this or that position. But why is this so arousing for me ? There's surely a reason, I absolutely don't know which one. I only know what aren't the reasons.
It's not because I was seeing boobs. I live in a country where girls can be topless at the beach. What mean that each time I was at the beach, there were naked boobs all around me. Yet the ones I remember from my teenage years, the ones that aroused me at this time, was the ones that was uncovered just for an instant. I surely saw better boobs in full display that some of the ones I had a glance at, yet it's the later that had an effect on me.
It's also not because I like to see what I am not supposed to see. Having a glance at a girl dressing or undressing, while I shouldn't see it, don't have the same effect on me. I assume that it's because the nakedness is then voluntary. And I also see no interest in peeping at someone, what I assume is due to the fact that this time the voluntary move come from me.
So, one of my fetishes is to involuntarily see what is involuntarily shown for an instant... And the hell if I can explain why ; what apply to all my others fetishes. There's a reason of course, but fetishes being a none rational reaction to a stimulus, how can I know why or even try to explain it ?


Edit: typos

 

[Dushniy]

Big fat tits and thighs trigger a chemical in my brain which makes me feel good.
I think that's about it.

 

[nicod]

i think what i like more in my fetishes that i would never do them in real ... even if i can do them in real i won't

let's explain

i like incest games doing somethin forbiden is hot as fuck
i like rape games which i can rape a girl/ woman (why i like it cause i like rough sex )

i like male domination i like sometimes to slave my girl or dominating her controlling her

i like rough sex poses and romance sex poses ... they the opposite but what can i do LOL
iam not fan of boring poses of sex


i know it's a game i do what i wish in games .. if i cannot do this in a game where should i do it !!

which remember me of the dumb people who talking about the killing games like GTA V and other
saying those game teach us to kill !! lol iam not going to start a topic cause it will never end

but game will stay a game

finally i like big ass milfs and thick legs more than other body parts

 

[cafenoir]

If you can explain why you like this or that, then is it really a fetish ?

Fetish only means to lust over something specific. It doesn't really matter whether you can explain why you like it or not.

Just like movies, you can just watch a movie and enjoy it. Or you can enjoy the details, a character being slightly blurry because he's in doubt, a long dolly shot to immerse you in the scene. I prefer to know all those things because it adds depth to what I like.

From what I can tell you like being a lucky perv. You are doing nothing wrong yet you are being awarded. And the pleasure you get from the expectation of boobs is greater than boobs itself. Like catwoman doesn't care as much about the thing she steal than stealing itself. Also... where you from? where can boobs can wander freely like that?

 

[anne O'nymous]

Fetish only means to lust over something specific.

No. What you describe is a liking, or a preference, not a fetish.

There's way more being a fetish than just lusting over something. A fetish isn't a desire, it's a need. It lead to an overload of lust during sexy time, while triggering an instant lust when in the middle of nowhere. But it's not something you seek, nor something you lust for. It's something needed to trigger a certain reaction ; a reaction that nothing else can triggered with such intensity.
If you've a liking for feet, by example, you'll want to interact with them during your sexy time, but not doing it will not deprive you of your pleasure. It will be even more pleasurable if you interact with them, but is still satisfying if you don't. This while having feet as sexual fetish mean that you need to interact with them in order to be satisfied.
If you go at the pool, you'll pass more time looking at them than looking at the rest of the body if you like feet. But if it's your fetish it's the only thing you'll care about.
And as I implied, not all fetishes are purely sexual. Or perhaps more precisely, they aren't all intended to happen during sex. My "glance at the forbidden" fetish have no place during sexy times ; I'm intended to see what I'll see, even if I saw it before I should have. But it trigger a reaction so intense that now I want to have sex, I need to have sex. More than once my girlfriend of the moment, or later my wife, had the time of her life because of this ; and no, I wasn't thinking at the girl who involuntarily flashed me will doing it. And, obviously, more often I suffered miserably for a long time, because it wasn't possible to have sex soon enough.

From what I can tell you like being a lucky perv. You are doing nothing wrong yet you are being awarded. And the pleasure you get from the expectation of boobs is greater than boobs itself.

Absolutely not.
I'm not awarded anything, I know perfectly that I'm far to be the only one, and if effectively there's a part of luck behind this, it's if the girl was doing it on purpose, and for me, that I would feel lucky ; but then it wouldn't be as pleasurable, as intense, since it wouldn't be involuntary.
If a word really need to be put on it, then it would be "gratification". What imply a part of selfishness (I saw what other haven't), and possibly a part of arrogance (I'm better than "them" since I was able to saw it). But no, really I never took this as a reward, nor felt lucky. But feeling excited, that yes, and it's really embarrassing when it happen at the beach ; what is another reason why I can't feel lucky or rewarded, because there's a big downside that come with it.

 

[Deleted member 440241]

I definitely wouldn't call a fetish a "need", although I tend to use the word as synonymous with "kink". For me a fetish is something that enhances sex but isn't required for the enjoyment of it. Even if it were a need, proper introspection could still inform you of why you feel that way.

• As for why I enjoy my fetishes, incest has been thoroughly covered already.
• Pregnancy, and by extension lactation, is kind of a soft dominance to me. I don't get aroused by rape or BDSM because I have more than enough experience with pain to despise inflicting it on others. But filling a woman with your cum and watching her belly swell and her tits fill as a result is an enjoyably loving way of claiming them as truly yours. Plus it feeds into the incest fetish because that's my kid, so let's see if I can't blast through that cervix and teach baby what daddy's cum tastes like.
• Loli is about corrupting the innocent. Personally I don't see it as any different than turning a nun into a sex crazed nympho. Or roleplaying as a teacher offering a Catholic schoolgirl better grades in exchange for sex. I also tend to enjoy a leaner body type, more akin to a runner's physique, and in porn you usually either have giant cow tits or flat chested lolis. So the latter is obviously more physically appealing. Of course this only applies in drawn/CG where kids are basically small adults and not actual kids. There's nothing sexy about platelets (Cells At Work) who're drawn in a more childlike way, but the lolis of Eromanga Sensei are basically just small adults and do look attractive.
• Futas and traps were something of a learned fetish. I started looking for futa on female and futa on futa porn because it was basically lesbian porn with dicks. Eventually that led me down the rabbit hole of Corruption of Champions and other tf porn where traps are super common. Over time I went from enjoying it about the same as regular porn to actively seeking it out and enjoying it more than standard m/f porn.

 

[Rafster]

This is an interesting thread. I always thought that a fetish was something that you NEED during sex, if not present, you wouldn't function. Of course, I don't have anything like that so at first I thought I didn't had anything to answer here.

But looking online, it seems I had wrong the fetish definition, is more like something that produce a very intense lust out of nowhere, but it's not something vital as I always thought. Now, If I go with that definition, I have some fetishes then:

1. Bald and Bearded men, especially with lots of body hair (the typical bear archetype. he doesn't need to be muscled though). These kind of men can have me at bed immediately, and in sex is really hard for me to not cum early. That's why I dedicated my first game to them. The more masculine looking, the more I lust for them.
2. Having a dominant partner. I tend to be submissive, it's part of my personality, so if I have someone bossing me around in bed...it arouse me, a lot.
3. Leather. Typical fetish, I could cum by just looking guys fully dressed in black leather. They don't even need to show of dick or ass.
4. Certain Uniforms. Someone dressed as a cop/military probably would make me cum in minutes. Maybe is the aspect of authority that drives me wild?
5. Chastity play. That one is more recent, I just discovered it like 15 years ago. Having my own orgasms controlled by someone else is one of my most powerful fantasies. I even have an old chastity cage (a CB 6K) that sometimes I use. Maybe I directly link it to someone having control over me, I dunno. This fetish in particular is HARD to find in games, because it's frequently attached to sissification, which is a turn off for me. So I'm aiming to have my own version of it in the game I'm making.
6. Watersports. This one may be gross...but I find hot to have a guy piss over me. Sigh..writing it like this sounds weird..but I did it once and it was extremely hot, I came in minutes after that.
7. Fisting: I like to watch it in porn, and tried to do it twice on real life (and almost succeeded, but unfortunately it requires a preparation which I didn't had), it was quite an experience I want to repeat sometime.
8. Muscle worship. Self explanatory. I don't even need to go over this.

One learns new things every day.

 

[TheBlackGungir]

For me.

1. Incest has been covered but for me it's also intense passion I actually dislike romantic incest cause to me it doesn't hit my fetish the same I don't want the character fucking his or her family members because they are in love I wanted because of the passion and lust like "I want her or him regardless of us being related" and add that with shift power dynamics like son dominating Mom or Older sister and it's perfect.
2. NTR I love because it the women being more carnal and plays on the fact that in Japanese media the women must be pure but NTR plays on that with the fact sure she is pure but she is still a person and has needs and at some point being the nice good guy won't be enough.

I got a couple more but those are the big two I can think of right now.

 

[cafenoir]

No. What you describe is a liking, or a preference, not a fetish.

Yes it is. Using the definitinon in dictionaries. Fetish as used in this thread:
- a need or desire for an object, body part, or activity for sexual excitement.
- or Psychology. any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.
There is some definitions that opens the fetish the notion of activities. That's a large definition.

 

[anne O'nymous]

Yes it is. Using the definitinon in dictionaries. Fetish as used in this thread:
- a need or desire for an object, body part, or activity for sexual excitement.
- or Psychology. any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

And therefore fetish isn't meant as lusting over something specific.
A desire ("strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen") imply more than simple lust ("strong sexual desire"), and obviously a need is yet something else.
Said otherwise, "lust" is the (re)action, while both "need" and "desire" are the reasons why you want this action, or feel this reaction. You'll not feel lust if you aren't in the mood, while you'll feel desire whatever the circumstance.

 

[rk-47]

The thought of the hot chick being caked in seed is pretty passionate icl

 

[Penumbral Evanescence]

The thought of the hot chick being caked in seed is pretty passionate icl

Cakes and seeds. A farmer and a bakers wet dream.

 

[Meaning Less]

Another interesting thing I notice is that my kinks vary depending on what I am consuming outside of porn.

When I am deep into a game usually I start lusting for 3D graphics with more navigation.
When reading more manga doujin is better.
When watching anime 2d graphics hit the spot.
When I'm reading a lot text-based games become an interesting option.
And so on...

It isn't always a 1 to 1 relation but they do influence eachother. There are probably many things that influence what people are currently into but I do notice that this is usually how it works for me.

Probably many people are like that which would explain the overwatch SFM porn wave when overwatch was a thing.

 

[cafenoir]

I'm gonna sound dumb. I get part of what you say but not all of it. Feels like we are debating over something but I don't get what.

 

[Pervtron3000]

I like submissive female perspective. I never knew this until I experienced it in the taimanin yukikaze game where we get to see the depraved inner monologue of outwardly proud women, having corrupted logic and giving into enhanced sex instincts.
I don’t know why. I thought maybe because I might be gay, but I don’t have any sexual attraction to men.
I do enjoy playing as a submissive woman and essentially collecting a dom harem ojisans and barely legal highschool boys to treat me like their property whenever they have a need for it.
I can’t explain it, but it’s sooooo good!

 

[DawnCry]

Personally I have 2 things that I like:

-Having opposite concepts in a game, such as "dominate or be dominated", it's kind of interesting to have both sides in a game, especially when the characters try to push you towards one side and you can resist.

Reason why I like it? I enjoy the struggle, when you manage to overcome a burden it makes more pleasant your victory.

-Female or futa antagonists: Let's say I wanna mess up with them in all aspects, having that so called antagonist to surrender to my MC's dick is very pleasant, however cause I'm not interested at all in masculine characters I just don't want them as antagonists on h games.

It's kind of the same reason, I just enjoy winning and feeling that I deserve the harem I get in the end.

But well, I just like this if the game is gameplay based, if it's just choosing options it misses the point of the struggle.