you're view is one sided though you're focusing only on the physical aspect while ignoring any mental stimulation
what youre saying essentially is you want to focus on the subs pleasure (you via self inserting) over the dominant womens pleasure
I think you're distorting Leo's words, who essentially
isn't saying that.
But whatever, Japanese cumdom has a primary
writing focus on the sub's ejaculation and the domme's pleasure, whether mental from the domination or visual from the pretty sperm fountains, is usually pretty incidental from
that. And beyond all the creative "I-I-I a-am s-s-s-so t-t-tim-mid th-that I-I m-m-m-must a-alw-ways s-s-st-t-tut-t-ter t-to w-w-wo-m-m-men" dialog, it's rarely made clear why it's so terrible, painful or embarrassing for the sub to be dominated with stimulation. It's almost never made clear that the domme is ignoring the sub's need for breaks and
this isn't just licence, or that the stimulation is too rough or in another way unpleasant.
