I preached, preach and will keep preaching the superiority of
consent.
I think some of them get little confused how to deal with 'giving up control' part of femdom. With few unique exceptions - you gotta remember that players don't want to be told what to do, but have an illusion of that.
In the end, if you make something unavoidable - you turn this into maledom in meta-level.
But there's simple solution to workaround this issue. Do you
want to *force* protagonist into strapon?
For a dev to make something optional, in the most extreme version - is only few lines of code.
Code:
menu:
"Turn around and bent over, puppy."
"Struggle":
"She places her hand on my shoulder on throws me off-balance. Taken by surprise, I try to protest, but before I can do anything - she pushes my back forward, exposing my defenseless butt."
"Refuse":
"I take a step back and apologize, for I am not ready for that step yet."
Even otherwise perfect games failed to take that into consideration, without even femdom part being included.
Especially devs of vanilla games love to randomly forget the nature of VN and just rush straight to the H-scene. What if I didn't felt like it at the moment, and wanted to progress story? What if in such scenario I'd felt more comfortable not choosing lust? etc. etc. etc.
NOW.
As for Strap-on specifically - one of few things that can work only as POV scene imo.
Otherwise you just watch digital dude getting ass fucked.