Fetishes IQ philosophy

[Ass prefer]

nothing superfluous, everyone is in their place and doing what they have to do

 

[Geigi]

I want to share another of my "fetishes", if it's possible to call him that by that word.
I like the ordinariness of sex, that is, a man fucks a woman and this is normal, that is, there is no context that someone "deserves" someone, no, it's just nature, they are both pure in their desires, everything is as it should be.
you may not understand, but I see beauty in it.

Primal play?

 

[Ass prefer]

Primal play?

Yes, just primitive instincts, no words about any kind of "love" or "responsibilities" It just exists

 

[lolzorzs]

You dirty dirty monkeys.

 

[GNVE]

An introvert might be very lazy in bed, indirectly selfish.

Okay so I read this sentence and my horoscope alarm goes off. This is just BS. Introversion means that a person likes to be alone or in a small group to recharge their energy whereas extroverts prefer large groups of people in general (though this is a scale rather than a hard line). I can imagine that on average introverts might have less sexual partners than extroverts (seen as they prefer smaller gatherings and may therefor have less opportunity to meet partners).
As for them being lazy in bed? No or maybe if they ended up in a large orgy somehow... In one on one contact (you know, like sex) they often thrive.
Maybe you are referring to social anxiety but even then it wouldn't be lazy more scared? They might even overcompensate and focus all effort on their partner. Trying to please them afraid they aren't doing it right.
The rest is more of the same (often debunked) assumptions and I don't feel the need to go into each and every one of them.

Even if sexual expressions say something in general about personality on an individual level there are always exceptions. It's like the old adage that men want more sex then women. On a group level that is true (even if it isn't as big as often portrayed) but that doesn't mean there aren't women with a sex drive that would give most men a run for their money and vice versa.

Even worse is to go by sexual fantasy since not all fantasies need to be realized. Enjoying something in porn does not mean someone wants to execute it in real life.
As for it's meaning it's even more complex. BDSM for instance is not as you stated for people who where abused. From what I have read a lot of subs are actually highly accomplished people with a lot of responsibilities and high stress jobs. The sub fantasy allows them to give up all that power and stress and only follow meekly for a little while.
Rape fantasies often have something to do with letting go and allowing yourself to enjoy sex in a way that is deemed immoral by the culture you live in.
Again these are examples and not true in all cases.

1) Today's generation lives in a pod , always doing things in theory.

And of course the old "Today's youth! Grumble grumble grumble..." The old Greeks where already complaining about how todays youth was bad compared to their own generation. It seems a lot of people forget what it is to be young and therefor all young people are worse then they where. (just like their parents grumbled about them, their grandparents grumbled about their parents etc. etc. etc.)

 

[lolzorzs]

I've had another person complain I didn't follow the textbook definition of an introvert compared to an extrovert. There can be antisocial extroverts and social introverts as weird and impossible as that sounds.
You could call them instead active and passive people. Passive people are usually lazy bums in bed. Active people are active in bed. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck then it's a goddamn duck. Synonyms and association. Someone who has bad grades in school *laugh* isn't necessarily dumb (she usually is), but she's objectively bad at memorizing things.

As in an extrovert wants an active environment especially to move, but once he's had his social fill up he goes back to being an antisocial cause he needs to recharge his batteries so to speak, he needs pauses, he cannot give up his privacy, his crib, his cavern to live alone.
A social introvert might want a more passive environment, he's too lazy to want an active environment where he's in the center of the attention how he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to move. He wants to hear himself speak. He doesn't have much in the way of different types of socializing, he only knows 1 type of socializing. When he's asked to socialize in a different way he cracks like an egg, he gets stuck. Same for the active person to learn to be passive. His passiveness turns more into that antisocial depression and "leave me alone" shtick you see out of 15 year olds.

" From what I have read a lot of subs are actually highly accomplished people with a lot of responsibilities and high stress jobs."
Keyword being high stress jobs. They don't want to be in control in a high stress environment. They want to be in control in a slow moving environment where they let others do the work for them, where they project onto their employees. Like the boss wanting the employee to take care of them. And ironically most lazy bum executives do not do much work, there is no stress in an executive's life compared to an actual producer and director or some other actual boss that needs to control the sheep. A lazy bum executive would never feel the need to be subservient to others. At best he'd constantly feel the need to depend on others cause that's what he does, not truly a boss, just an order giver. An actual boss is sick and tired of giving orders and trying to reach every possible retarded intern how it's done and wants to kick back and relax and watch the intern miraculously do his job like most executives do.

Just like for example here... you'd think I'd hate typing these large textwalls explaining to people stuff. What do I secretly want out of this? I want people to say "Good job on that textwall" any positivity for me would be good. At the same time you'd think I'd enjoy listening to someone else's textwalls? wrong. I'd enjoy leaving somebody in charge of my ideals to accomplish them and speak for me while I sit back and relax.

" And of course the old "Today's youth! Grumble grumble grumble..." The old Greeks where already complaining about how todays youth was bad compared to their own generation."
Oh no no no, let's not generalize. This is an exception. It's not just today's youth, it's today's millennials, gen-Xers, baby boomers, everyone got affected by computers. They are more subservient due to computers. However objectively today's gen-Z and gen-alphas are genuinely incapable of knowing how to work a PC because they stay all day on a smartphone that lacks a right click and lacks a folder structure and a bunch of other things. Today's generation objectively never worked with keyboard and mouse and Windows 10+, they worked with Android and Mac OS X. Objectively by these matters gen-Z and gen-Alpha are genuinely uncultured. Gen-X instead seems to be the superior generation, both cultured, rebellious and responsible at the same time.

 

[GNVE]

At the same time you'd think I'd enjoy listening to someone else's textwalls? wrong. I'd enjoy leaving somebody in charge of my ideals to accomplish them and speak for me while I sit back and relax.

I'll spare you and leave you with this: You must have an amazingly comfortable armchair to sit in.

 

[Stalker Seducer]

There's no denying that some fetishes, kinks, preferences attract a certain group of people of which the IQ might play a large consideration for why they choose that fetish.
Same for how they choose to execute that fetish by their preference based on their intelligence, just like the philosophy of death turned into a religion/a cult, just like furries.
Just like certain education/culture might affect your preferences. Just like your personality might affect your decision in hobbies.
Lunatics think of sex as an exchange of trust rather than a neutral thing, superficial people view it as a pleasure exchange and do not care for the trust and responsibility.
Romantic people think of it as what it should be; a great bonus on top of the relationship.
An introvert might be very lazy in bed, indirectly selfish. An antisocial might be selfish. A narcissist will enjoy seeing himself, seeing his actions and being told he's great as a normal thing.

Let's start with a popular one among these circles.
NTR comes in many forms, but the simplest everyone chooses is to play as the girl and watch, rather than the self-insert being themselves.
NTR is another form of bent over backwards till the back broke cheating. The so called Netorare enjoyers just like weeaboos are beyond using common western terms.
Because cheating is a broader term, meanwhile NTR just like an indian, korean, spanish or italian sitcom always veers towards a soap opera, a niche, an extreme, an acquired moldy cheese taste but ironically pandering to a majority of people lacking taste just like furries. Furries also for some reason always lean towards Don Bluth, Tex Avery & Chuck Jones in terms of preferences over designs, they're never interested in the more western-japanified designs.

Regardless of who the viewer inserts as, the product with which NTR is represented never broadens its execution.
NTR
- isn't written as a positive thing where the cheater is in the right.
-doesn't have the one being cheated on actually be a worthwhile rival.
-usually isn't about elevating a character, it's always about degrading them.

NTR also veers into cuckoo birds and 3somes with voyeurism. A technical 3some where the 3rd party only watches almost like a porn director, even trying to pretend to be one, trying to be in control of his dolls, often times being in control. Once again breaking his own back as he always uses his own doll and a stranger's doll. You never hear of friends NTR3somes or incest NTR, because Netorare is a niche, if it would go outside its boundaries it would just be called a weird combination of 3some, cheating,voyeurism and directing... not as catchy to say all those 4. It's also what sells.
MILF/DILF - you do not think of the children aspect, you think of the "grown ass man/woman with experience but who also looks good for his/her age" the children and the old hag aspects are taken out of the equation just like with the NTR stuff.
This shows the current generation's warped tastes and less so their mental state as the lives they are living.

An old one but a popular one is the BDSM, for people who are sadomasochists and have been abused their whole life, this leaks into their sex life and rather than trying to forget it they stay in the past till it leaks in the present, projecting their mental illness. Or they simply got tired of sex. Just like most gay or lesbians either had a very bad relationship or had too many women/men, got bored and want something new.
However as you can clearly see you don't see any asexuals and any people forgetting the past and looking up to the future. This of course is because anyone who gets over themselves never once mentions it again and does not join these circles, they don't report it. Just like evolution and natural selection. It isn't evolution as much as it's a mutation and mutations are accidental, RNG, they're without intention. " I drew a dinosaur on all my ABCD answers and passed the test despite not studying a thing." and scientists mistake it for adaption.

What's the difference between today's fetishes and the old fetishes?
1) Today's generation lives in a pod , always doing things in theory. As such they turn into natural introverts who instead of living life for themselves would rather project and live other peoples' lives. They are incapable of making decisions for themselves , instead just setting up the scenario and seeing how it plays out , this shows a lack of personality and experience/life. This is why NTR is popular with introverts and why they veer towards degradation rather than uplifting.
They have no experience, yet they have plenty of unpracticed knowledge. A generation of eggheads so to speak, but not intellectuals in the least bit quite the opposite. They read about horrorfying things, yet they live in their pods, they cannot feel. They cannot experience. They somehow turn into unfeeling narcissists and "somehow" the computer & the internet turns their brains and perception to that of a sick person by practice, less so clinically and more so practically.
Mammals & humans were not made to stare a screen all day; it lowers your reaction time, your auditory senses, your body language skills, your perception, most of your senses either dwindle or you get overwhelmed by the real thing. They lack any sort of competition in them, even through non physical tournaments. They want to auto-win, they do not want to participate, they want to be observers. They enjoy watching movies that does not make them think. They want to be spoonfed. They're naturally shy people but lack empathy, the mark of autism/aspergers but not clinically, merely socially maladjusted by lack of education & experience.

2) The old generation went outside, they are much more focused on the physical tangible LIVE interactive heavy fetishes where they must make active "responsible" decisions. They are natural extroverts because they did not stare at a screen all day. As such they are physical life-made psychos and sociopaths, their senses dwindled not because they felt too little by living all their life in a cave, but because they experienced too much and got too used to it, they need new physical experiences. None of them would try voyeurism, they'd find that boring, there's no interaction and no senses involved in it. They aren't lazy and passive like today's generation.
As such the new generation is not into sadistic and masochistic physical tendencies, not even mental as much as they pretend to. The old generation can feel and can interact. Their mental illneses are inflicted by the physical world as opposed to the digital world.

As such today's generation might share a lot of similarities with the old generation's engineers, programmers, technical types. However the difference would still be night and day.
Old gen's nerds actually thinked. That's the difference between a geek a nerd. A geek is not just someone who's fascinated with pop culture and social media, a geek is a genuine faker like George Lucas or Trey Parker who are incapable of creating anything, not even good analysis worthy of academia. A geek traditionally is a mental case that copy-pastes and can't even retain and use the information for long periods of time, always sitting in bare mediocrity at 5/10 grades.
A geek is exactly on the level of a sports fanatic, they don't think. A geek preferences wise also isn't like a redneck cause geeks are passive, rednecks are aggressive.
Today's "nerds" are talentless hacks incapable of doing anything but the most niche stuff such as cyber security and algorithms for facial recognition. There's also much fewer of them than in olden times.

I have never seen a post that made me unironically think somebody needs to be put in a psychiatric ward... until now.

 

[lolzorzs]

I have never seen a post that made me unironically think somebody needs to be put in a psychiatric ward... until now.

That means you're normal and traditional, you react like a traditional person by yelling burn the witch when approached by a doctor, intellectual, scientist or literally a talking cat.
As opposed to this new generation that laughs at it so they don't cry and get shocked over it.

 

[Stalker Seducer]

That means you're normal and traditional, you react like a traditional person by yelling burn the witch when approached by a doctor, intellectual, scientist or literally a talking cat.
As opposed to this new generation that laughs at it so they don't cry and get shocked over it.

Not really i have had a witch burn called on me many many times... it's just that you live in such a delusional world built upon so many preconceived notions, simply put your version of reality is not the one the rest of us are living in. a bit like the old homeless man preaching about the end of the world on the street corner, well clearly you are a bit more high functioning then that since you can use a computer. even so reading your posts i would diagnose you with some kind of delusional disorder.

 

[lolzorzs]

Not really i have had a witch burn called on me many many times... it's just that you live in such a delusional world built upon so many preconceived notions, simply put your version of reality is not the one the rest of us are living in. a bit like the old homeless man preaching about the end of the world on the street corner, well clearly you are a bit more high functioning then that since you can use a computer. even so reading your posts i would diagnose you with some kind of delusional disorder.

Scientists often got told they're delusional until they learned to stick together and create their own language so nobody else but their group can understand them. If you were to understand them you too would believe they're delusional until their theories are proven right.

I'd ask you to dissect my post and my statements if you can, I enjoy learning in detail somebody else's perspective, what's behind the curtain. I have constantly heard it from people that they get irrationally angry and disgusted at the way I write, it seems I trigger an emotional stimulant. It doesn't bode well with them, but they can never pin-point exactly why. Is it the vocabulary, the sentence structure, the statements, it doesn't make you feel good and happy about your life while you read my prose?

By the way what do you think of animes in terms of morals, messages, etc.? mediocre and dumb? yet easy to understand in how blatantly simple they are? Haikus would sound smarter if they too were more complex like western poetry.

 

[GNVE]

Scientists often got told they're delusional until they learned to stick together and create their own language so nobody else but their group can understand them. If you were to understand them you too would believe they're delusional until their theories are proven right.

I'd ask you to dissect my post and my statements if you can, I enjoy learning in detail somebody else's perspective, what's behind the curtain. I have constantly heard it from people that they get irrationally angry and disgusted at the way I write, it seems I trigger an emotional stimulant. It doesn't bode well with them, but they can never pin-point exactly why. Is it the vocabulary, the sentence structure, the statements, it doesn't make you feel good and happy about your life while you read my prose?

By the way what do you think of animes in terms of morals, messages, etc.? mediocre and dumb? yet easy to understand in how blatantly simple they are? Haikus would sound smarter if they too were more complex like western poetry.

Yeah... no... Scientists actually do research. It is clear you have done no research nor have you looked at the research of others. It would be nigh on impossible for your statements to be more wrong from what I have read in books made by people who did read that literature. (I will not profess to having done or read the research literature myself).
While sometimes with a radical idea a researcher has to swim against the tide for a while before the evidence speaks for itself. Most (like more than 99.9%) of the time research is about incremental gains in understanding. People agreeing on the broad picture while expanding horizons of knowledge or mucking in the margins.
The heroic researcher standing against the world is more of a myth than anything.

Look if you truly are interested in this stuff there is some literature out there written by professionals. I understand it I found it interesting. You just can't go off of all those notions you have and be curious and understanding. I do not know where you got the ideas you write about from but well they aren't right.

 

[Ass prefer]

You dirty dirty monkeys.

"Oh how pretty, all scenery"

 

[Stalker Seducer]

I'd ask you to dissect my post and my statements if you can, I enjoy learning in detail somebody else's perspective, what's behind the curtain. I have constantly heard it from people that they get irrationally angry and disgusted at the way I write, it seems I trigger an emotional stimulant. It doesn't bode well with them, but they can never pin-point exactly why. Is it the vocabulary, the sentence structure, the statements, it doesn't make you feel good and happy about your life while you read my prose?

By the way what do you think of animes in terms of morals, messages, etc.? mediocre and dumb? yet easy to understand in how blatantly simple they are? Haikus would sound smarter if they too were more complex like western poetry.

You type like you know better then others and you state personal opinions or theories as facts.

You assume fetishes attract certain groups of people, you assume IQ has any correlation to fetishes, you assume Lunatics think of sex as an exchange of trust rather than a neutral thing, the list goes on and on. even if all the things you stated were true statistically, labeling people and making generalizations isn't going to win you many friends especially on a touchy subject like fetishes. not to mention saying people who view sex as a trust exercise are "Lunatics" is borderline name calling.

I don't get paid enough to pick apart your entire thesis on zoomer geeks and fetish grouping, let's just say i disagree with most statements you made because they were either an assumption or a huge generalization.

The moral message in a large chunk of the anime catalogue is "war and killing bad" i don't personally watch it for the kindergarten level moral lessons, but everyone who likes anime has different reasons.

 

[lolzorzs]

Yeah... no... Scientists actually do research. It is clear you have done no research nor have you looked at the research of others. It would be nigh on impossible for your statements to be more wrong from what I have read in books made by people who did read that literature. (I will not profess to having done or read the research literature myself).
While sometimes with a radical idea a researcher has to swim against the tide for a while before the evidence speaks for itself. Most (like more than 99.9%) of the time research is about incremental gains in understanding. People agreeing on the broad picture while expanding horizons of knowledge or mucking in the margins.
The heroic researcher standing against the world is more of a myth than anything.

Look if you truly are interested in this stuff there is some literature out there written by professionals. I understand it I found it interesting. You just can't go off of all those notions you have and be curious and understanding. I do not know where you got the ideas you write about from but well they aren't right.

>Look if you truly are interested in this stuff there is some literature out there written by professionals. I understand it I found it interesting.
Which were your favourite books and authors on the matter?

Sounds 99% similar to the few times I did get given reasons, so the motivation for being unfavorable is objective from one type of perspective at least. As in 2 large groups of people who share something in common; enjoying being manipulated to feel good and feel vindicated.
So on one account it's a lack of trusting the source, I simply have to pretend, manipulate and sound believable in order to get that A. It doesn't correlate with the objective knowledge presented by everyone and done before. My originality and honesty makes all heaven go in a rage.
Key word here being "Assume".

And indeed my way of talking is like a pompous critic or a judgemental hen. It doesn't sound like your best friend trying to talk you into doing drugs neither a teacher referencing an objective work by true and tested methods and groups of highly respected people. Perhaps I could learn a thing or two not from critics but from journalists, they're quite efficient at manipulation. People in general, but the American population and this generation especially enjoy being manipulated and taking the equivalent of drugs and even punishing others like crabs in a bucket for not adhering to social norms/drugs.

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So objectively? yes the way I write does get that reaction out of 50% of people, ESPECIALLY young emotional ones looking for an optimistic and trustworthy take. Since my way of doing things is 180 degrees against pandering to a child looking for guidance, and even against a teacher looking for an academic scholar. Of course most people would find it let's say disgusting and worthy of getting angry over it, for a lack of better words.
Indeed my manipulation skills are 0, yet I also didn't bother checking what others had to say on the subject matter, ironically out of a fear of getting manipulated myself into thinking and referencing the same base over and over again(which if I'm mature and objective enough I won't allow it to influence me), I ironically pride myself at least in my view on honesty and originality, that originality if it isn't masked properly or pretending to be based on true and tested concepts often gets scrutinized. "You type like you know better then others and you state personal opinions or theories as facts. " Then I guess I have to say I am stating my facts as theories and personal opinions based off true and cited papers, scientists, social norms and everything else based off objective facts?

I actually talked with an academic writer & psychologist before ... he was very detailed and gave me a run for my money, even defeating me with my help. What I did have above him however at all times was the art direction. Understanding biology is an art since it's so finnicky, it's not an exact science like chemistry, it's more like cooking on steroids. Whenever he was not bouncing off me and was instead writing his own essays his would be technically correct, but lacking both the originality and ironically socially cognitive conclusion. Despite all his academical knowledge he came to the same conclusions as an average fanboying person about the subject matter he was interested in; stuck in the box, never thinking outside of it, never coming with his own perspective and conclusions, always mimicking what others told him.
Ironically he was very useful to me while he was under my direction looking for the things I was looking for, yet on his own he was looking for the same boring things and through the same boring perspectives as everyone else while looking for an explanation in the wrong place or rather through the wrong perspective.

I used to have a grandmother, she "respected" getting manipulated and physically abused, perhaps you'd do too. "Respect" as in she silently judged you, but she didn't have a choice in the matter. She had to follow the group, the mentality, the childhood she was taught with much to her own detriment.
You assume my theories are wrong simply because I don't talk with a higher vocabulary and cite my sources based off other people and I don't sit atop the shoulders of giants. Why yes I am quite educated in my assumptions even if I don't reveal my sources. Oh they are absolutely right, just because you don't enjoy Nietzsche which I personally find him to be quite a comedy, doesn't mean it's not 100% correct. I quite enjoy black humour, unlike most people. Most people look to hide and run away from tragedy, I enjoy it.

I don't get paid enough to pick apart your entire thesis on zoomer geeks
and absolutely not because you're part of them and the truth hurts when it's pointed at you? and yes I could pay you a few bucks to rant at your own generation, do you take crypto?
Oh you've been "burned/witch hunted" yourself? I'd say you're more submissive in my opinion. The way you type is much more emotionally rational and ignorant in an educated normalized way than people laughing at tragedy.

For example you'd have a different opinion if I was an e-celeb myself and my society influenced you. Everyone can be influenced, especially children who always enjoy sweet lies. Becoming a drug provider is what I need to do in order to be popular among the people, especially youngsters. I personally always tried to not do that since it felt so dishonest, it literally is "lying for the greater good" and unfortunately that's what you need to do in order to get your annoying stubborn teen to accept your stuff earnestly without doing 180 degrees or misinterpreting everything you told her to do with a leather belt on the ass. Yeeah that feels bad doesn't it? it's telling your subconscious it's dangerous and it isn't your friend indulging you in your equivalent of recreational drugs?

So you're submissive, but in that typical support manner. You don't feel like a natural born leader to me, your problem is assuming I am also playing support.
So you're an opportunist antisocial as well since people who understand and predict who they're dealing with often hate themselves. Once they feel in "control" they feel like they can freely disregard and say everything and anything, I speak from experience. That is why it's important like you've indirectly told me to lie, deceit, manipulate, etc. Americans love it, people love it, MANCHILDREN ESPECIALLY LOVE IT. Just feed them sugar it doesn't matter that it's bad for them, they will never fully hate their drug provider as much as they'll hate the tightwad rule-enforcers who deny them their drugs, the parents so to say. Everyone who ever hated me was always an antisocial child. If you knew who I was you would learn to hate me even more. I personally always enjoy assuming I'm talking with a posh British person challenging me whenever I talk on the Internet. Facebook disappoints me.

Gen-Zers/zombies are interesting in how shallow^11 they are. A normal person respects an actor through adulation and thinking the actor/the president is representative of the character/writer and entire production team behind the puppet.
People unironically enjoy puppets, entertainment, kabuki theater.
Meanwhile Gen-Z takes it 1 step above the shallowness downright into mental insanity by enjoying E-Celebs/Internet celebrities who are just indie "actors" with nothing behind them. Like children playing with sticks & stones and pretending those sticks & stones/indie devs are so much superior over actual actors. Because the industry has fallen, there is no more industry to follow.

 

[GNVE]

Which were your favourite books and authors on the matter?

Unfortunately most of it is in Dutch but here are a few resources that come to mind or I have near.
Spuiten en slikken a program where experts, users and the general public talk openly about their own experiences, literature, addiction issues etc with sex and drugs. The hosts did various well known and lesser known drugs under the watchful eye of medical staff and experienced users. (If it could be done relatively safely. No shooting heroine.)
Rutgers.nl is a dutch resource with a lot of info on sexuality in all forms. from regular to excentric, to problematic and everything in between. They do large scale studies about sexual health and potential problem area's (and I did read those studies).
Fantasy sex by Flic Everet. Popular psychology but seems decently well researched.
Psychologie van de adolescentie by Jan de Wit, Wim Slot & Marcel van Aken is a book about adolescence in all forms including sexuality
Sociale Psychologie by Roos Vonk is a book about social psychology and contains a few chapters about love from both the social psychological and biological perspective.
Finally Wilde Jaren by Tom ter Bogt and Belinda Hibbel, a book about youthcultures. So not directly about sex but does touch on the 60's and the developments that lead up to that. The ways social norms changed and generally provides a cultural perspective to all this.
For a historic perspective the Kinsey reports are worth a read (though I did find them a bit stuffy. But you need to know a lot of information has been superseded by new research and insights.

yet I also didn't bother checking what others had to say on the subject matter

And there is your problem. If I want to fix my car I can look up resources to see if I can do it myself, what tools I need, if I need an expert or I can attack the engine with a hammer and hope for the best. You're just using a hammer and finding it weird nobody is willing to listen...

 

[lolzorzs]

Unfortunately most of it is in Dutch but here are a few resources that come to mind or I have near.
Spuiten en slikken a program where experts, users and the general public talk openly about their own experiences, literature, addiction issues etc with sex and drugs. The hosts did various well known and lesser known drugs under the watchful eye of medical staff and experienced users. (If it could be done relatively safely. No shooting heroine.)
Rutgers.nl is a dutch resource with a lot of info on sexuality in all forms. from regular to excentric, to problematic and everything in between. They do large scale studies about sexual health and potential problem area's (and I did read those studies).
Fantasy sex by Flic Everet. Popular psychology but seems decently well researched.
Psychologie van de adolescentie by Jan de Wit, Wim Slot & Marcel van Aken is a book about adolescence in all forms including sexuality
Sociale Psychologie by Roos Vonk is a book about social psychology and contains a few chapters about love from both the social psychological and biological perspective.
Finally Wilde Jaren by Tom ter Bogt and Belinda Hibbel, a book about youthcultures. So not directly about sex but does touch on the 60's and the developments that lead up to that. The ways social norms changed and generally provides a cultural perspective to all this.
For a historic perspective the Kinsey reports are worth a read (though I did find them a bit stuffy. But you need to know a lot of information has been superseded by new research and insights.



And there is your problem. If I want to fix my car I can look up resources to see if I can do it myself, what tools I need, if I need an expert or I can attack the engine with a hammer and hope for the best. You're just using a hammer and finding it weird nobody is willing to listen...

Ik verwachtte veel meer Franse, Duitse, Britse suggesties, je bent een lokale jongen, toch?

Ik lijk een specifiek soort mensen aan te trekken met mijn natuurlijke persoonlijkheid. Ik weet niet zeker of het komt omdat ze denken dat ze in goed gezelschap zijn en uitkijken naar iets intellectueels, maar dan teleurgesteld zijn dat ze niet geconfronteerd worden met scriptie na scriptie van wetenschappelijke citaten en verwijzingen naar auteurs.

And there is your problem. If I want to fix my car I can look up resources to see if I can do it myself, what tools I need, if I need an expert or I can attack the engine with a hammer and hope for the best. You're just using a hammer and finding it weird nobody is willing to listen...

Ohohoho, met het risico dat ik hypocriet klink tegenover iemand die me 14 jaar geleden bleef vertellen dat wiskunde objectief is en filosofie niet, moet ik zeggen dat kunst, biologie en psyche niet objectief zijn, maar generalistisch. Want met psychologie kun je goed liegen en niemand zal het ooit weten.

Ik zal ook weer zeggen dat ik geniet van anonimiteit omdat ik kan doen alsof ik met een persoon met een hoog IQ en een Brits accent praat. Het houdt de dingen pittig. Op het moment dat hoop en verwachting niet alleen worden onthuld, maar ook worden bevestigd op een onbewust niveau, verlies ik alle interesse.