I am also burned out by fap games and even good story VNs. I went on a bit of a binge searching for gameplay eroges.
First of all, the absolute best gameplay eroge in English is Venus Blood Frontier imo. That shit is so fun, it can compete with most strategy games out there. Bonus points for amazing corruption fetish. Minus points for being extremely tentacular.
Big Bang Age is quite fun. Pretty endearing characters, but the tone is on the wacky side. It does have it's more mature themes though. Sengoku Rance from the same devs is very similar, so it's probably really fun gameplay wise. I haven't played it yet though.
Ikusa Megami Zero plays in the jRPG fashion. Gameplay is pretty much standard fare, but it's not bad honestly. You should be in this for the story above all else though.
Evenicle (and it's sequel I guess) has a jRPG gameplay. Tbh, the gameplay aspects are pretty much standard stuff again like the above mention. The difference is in the tone of the game. Ikusa Megami Zero is like a greek tragedy while Evenicle is... anime harem silliness.
Bunny Black is a 1st person view dungeon crawler like those old school DnD stuff. But when battle starts, we get into a grid similar to Ogre Battle on snes. It's pretty fun actually. Lot's of rape but its the happy rape that makes them fall in love with you lol.
There are quite a bit more eroges with gameplay like Kamidori, Eiyuu Senki, Duel Savior, Brave Soul, and many more that I've heard about but never got around to playing.
On the western front, there are not as many contenders. Love of Magic stands out the most as a complete game with great story, setting, characters, and gameplay.
CoC2 is pretty fun gameplay wise. The fetishes and porn aspects will really depend on the player.
I've played many RPGM games, but The Last Sovereign somehow makes the gameplay really engaging without getting too fancy. It's all in the gameplay balance with this title.
Price for Freedom: Avarice looks very ambitious. It is a porn game take on the cRPG formula. I have not played it because I'm still "saving it" until development gets much further, so I can't really comment on the quality.
I'm sure that I've missed a whole bunch on the western side too, but not much else comes to mind at the moment.