While I agree with the sentiment, I also think this is something people NEED to be pushed about. I don't mean in a negative way, I mean "if you're having trouble, reach out to someone, ANYONE". I know it's not easy; I've been in a psych ward before for attempted suicide, and even though I don't
think I would have gone through with it, I'm still grateful a friend found me doing some dumb shit. You never know when it is or isn't serious, and the ONE time it is is the ONLY chance they will ever get: even if they
don't like it, people should have that nagging voice in their head saying "just call someone you pussy". Who cares if it's a negative internal monologue, so long as it makes them DO IT, because "negativity" and "positivity" and all the nonsense petty stuff we surround it with ceases mattering once that person is gone.
People need to get tough on these dialogues and say "stay in contact, even if it's only a check-in with a friend or making a blog post or something completely inane". I know this will grind some gears, but in reality most of that "hands off" mentality is really just an excuse to be lazy and not care: if you care about someone, you WANT them to bother you with their problems when they need it. I genuinely don't believe that anyone who defends self-destructive behaviors actually cares, and that instead it's another petty method of excusing oneself of the responsibility of having to monitor/care about other people who might have greater struggles than us.
And let me be clear: I know we're on a porn site talking about a smut dev, but hey, even randos on the internet have saved lives by saying the right things in the right moment. Even if we excuse Doggie's utterly fucking terrible communication skills, there's still an argument to be made for the positive effects of keeping schedules, keeping in contact with people, and just generally staying involved with others. I'm not assuming anything about their actual situation, just saying that if we're taking examples of "bad outcomes" from people disconnecting, one way to offset that possibility is to just have some modicum of accountability and connectedness to keep people "in the game".
