You are misunderstanding, purposefully or not I don't know. The game fits your definition of what we should be seeking the thread and not mine. If the OP wants it then it should be what we are looking for, if not then we should focus on pov stuff.
Having read the whole discussion, I would like to say a few words about the argument itself, but also a couple in support of 1eyed1's position, as well as why I do think that, ultimately, he is not entirely correct in his harsh judgement of content being posted by those with differing tastes.
I do not know the exact term to use, but I tend to call it "oblivious NTR" or "mystery NTR". I do believe that it is the type of content for which both me and 1eyed1 share an appreciation, and it is the kind of content in which the NTR is implied but not directly shown to the protagonist OR the player. The aforementioned Deceived by the Host game, for example, does not match this at all and, as such, is a complete turn off. If you want an example of an "oblivious NTR" game, I can mention NTR adventurer Alisa with the MC POV chosen at the start. You can also play NTR Knight like this by simply avoiding the scenes, but NTR Knight is not a game made with "oblivious NTR" in mind, it is more of a voyeurism game, so avoiding the scenes makes it a very barebones game. In fact, I do think that it is extremely difficult to make a really good "oblivious NTR" game.
Having said that, this list clearly includes some games that do not match what I described. "Oblivious NTR" is a niche in a niche and a list that includes only "oblivious NTR" games would be quite short. It is obvious that people who frequent this thread and post suggestions have a somewhat wider range of preferences and I do think that that's fine. We "oblivious NTR" fans could make our own thread, but then that would only get updated once every half a year, if not less often, and while not perfectly matching to what we prefer, it's still fun to discover new stuff. And I would argue that there is still a distinction between the generic NTR and what gets posted here. However, I do believe that female protagonist games do not really belong on this list, but who am I to tell others what to do? But I digress.
Regardless, I think that arguing about this is unnecessary, we are all on the same side here, after all! And even if we do argue, it is important to listen to the other person and to consider their point of view.