i get sad so easily now. i used to be so happy in life, had so many friends, many little things that could cheer people up. i was pretty social, always surrounded by people, always involved and stuff. but now... everything’s different. i’ve failed at everything, everything that truly mattered to me. and now, i don’t even know what i want from life anymore. people tell me, “just do something, find something meaningful, or try hobbies like gaming, music, watching stuff, creating things you enjoy.” but none of that feels good anymore. it’s like i’ve lost all interest in the things that once mattered to me, the things that still should. i hate feeling like this, but it feels like my failures force me into it. i don’t want to feel this way anymore, but i just can't escape from it... what should i do?
how to be happy again?
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Nope. Watching porn is totally normal. And masturbating every day — or even more than once a day — is perfectly healthy and safe, whether or not you have an orgasm (A.K.A. cum). Some people masturbate every day or more than once a day, while others do it once a month. It really doesn't matter.
Your ancestors were happier than you, and porn didn't exist back then. Coincidence? I think not.
Quit porn and be happy.
Stop self satisfying yourself, and work for it. The end result will feel better, and thus you'll be happier.
There is a website like F95Zone where a dev can submit their games, which is always good for extra views, or they can wait for somebody else to request and submit their game. Do you think I submitted my own games there? Of course not.
Submitting my own game = Masturbation, easy dopamine.
Somebody else requesting my game there = Getting a handjob.
I'll have to wait a much longer time to get a handjob, but once I do, it'll feel many times better.
Stop choosing the easy road. Stop masturbating, get a handjob.
Literally only the Counts advice made any sense. None of us can really help you because we don't know you. We don't know what caused the issues you're facing. What I do know is you're not alone in feeling like this. It happens to many people. Especially nowadays when you can't open a simple social media page and see the top 1% of humanity doing all this fun and amazing stuff. Take some time for yourself, evaluate yourself, and change what you think need be changed.
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How do you know my ancestors were happier than me? I've been watching porn over 20 years. I've seen more than 5,000 different naked women in porn. Yes, they were not in front of me with fresh and blood but it's just semantics. I'm way more happier than my ancestors because of porn.
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It's basic math, you've seen 5000 different naked women in porn, your ancestors had sex with hundred of women a year. Guess who was having more fun?How do you know my ancestors were happier than me? I've been watching porn over 20 years. I've seen more than 5,000 different naked women in porn. Yes, they were not in front of me with fresh and blood but it's just semantics. I'm way more happier than my ancestors because of porn.
Why do you think you have so many cousins, and probably more that you do not know of? They just didn't spawn out of nowhere, your ancestors (happily) did them.
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Try reading Jordan Petersons 12 rules for life.
Many people go through similar situations, it's literally a part of getting older. The midlife crisis is often the only one mentioned, but it is normal to have several such phases in life.
So this is something professionals can help with.
Appart from actuall therapy, like the links Count Morado posted, you can try calling your country's crisis hotline.
I believe 1-800-273-TALK (8255) is for the us.
Yes, it may sound more dramatic than your case may be, but those are not only for acute situations.
Here's a list of typical topics one calls them for:
Actually talking (not just chatting per text) to someone can help or at least cause some relief.
Other than that, here is what a wise women once said:
"Life is like drugs, you are just looking for the next hit. So, just go for your next hit of life-drugs and have your moment of happiness. The moment of happiness may be fleeting, but you alway can get another hit."
So this is something professionals can help with.
Appart from actuall therapy, like the links Count Morado posted, you can try calling your country's crisis hotline.
I believe 1-800-273-TALK (8255) is for the us.
Yes, it may sound more dramatic than your case may be, but those are not only for acute situations.
Here's a list of typical topics one calls them for:
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Actually talking (not just chatting per text) to someone can help or at least cause some relief.
Other than that, here is what a wise women once said:
"Life is like drugs, you are just looking for the next hit. So, just go for your next hit of life-drugs and have your moment of happiness. The moment of happiness may be fleeting, but you alway can get another hit."
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It might be hypocritical saying it here, but it might be good idea to lower the amount of self pleasure you do, as Happiness hormones gets used up when we do the deed. If you can't do it try to be more active(if you can), get some weights do some Planks/Push Up/Sit-Ups etc. While doing that try to be more outgoing and open to new stuff, we need to get out of our comfort zones at times. You'll notice it when you're doing stuff outside of your comfort zone you'll be excited and look forward to do your "comfort" stuff.
But all of this depends on the context that you're both physically and mentally able.
But all of this depends on the context that you're both physically and mentally able.
maybe you're right, but atp, nothing feels worth the effort. i can't bring myself to care about anything, but i'll try. still, a part of me feels like i’m just going through the motions, pretending it'll get better. maybe it will, but rn, it just feels like nothing ever does
Try finding a volunteering program which suits you, preferably something that will get you out of the house. Many people need help and being able to help others can do wonders to boost your sense of self worth, increase your self esteem, meet new people, gain a different perspective on the world and more. I'm sure your local community has some sort of a volunteering framework and could use all the help they could get. And since it's volunteer work, you can probably spend as little or as many hours per week as you'd like. Give it a try!
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Reduce how much porn you consume, limit it to once or twice a week, find more in person/physical hobbies such as various sports or other skills, see if theres archery or skeet shooting near you or trampolining, maybe try escape rooms or haunted houses. Go to meetup social events to try n make new friends, it might require a small fee but it would be worth it, broaden your game horizon, if you are playing fortnite and cod everyday youll never enjoy gaming, try singleplayer games or coop games, i recommend the yakuza series or the metal gear series
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There is no such thing as eternal happiness. Other emotions are important too. They point out to you that something is wrong, you should work on it. They make us alone because we are easy to control when we are alone. We need human interaction. We can't live alone. Try to go out and join social activities. Try to make friends. Social media ruined us all, try to reverse it by living in the reality. There is nothing wrong with you, don't worry. You don't need to go to a therapy session. You just need other like-minded people around you. Therapies are for females, because they are weak. We are not weak. You can force your body to release endorphin by working out. Eating well is important too. Don't eat junk food too much.