i'm starting to hate ntr/netorare... or should i say porn in general :(

[drag0nf6y]

i don’t even know where to start with this, but i just need to get this off my chest. i feel like i’m reaching a point where i don’t just dislike ntr, but porn as a whole is starting to feel... off. like, i used to think it was just ntr that pissed me off. the whole idea of betrayal, manipulation, and just watching someone get humiliated like that, it stopped feeling like "just a fetish" to me and started feeling gross. it’s weird because i never really thought that deeply about it before, but now, every time i see it, it just ruins my mood completely.

but then i started realizing, it's not just ntr. the more i look at porn in general, the more it starts feeling... empty? repetitive? fake? idk how to describe it, but it’s like i’ve become aware of how hollow it all is. at first, it was just the usual burnout yk? when you’ve seen too much, and nothing really excites you anymore. but now, it’s like i see through it. like, i see how exploitative it is, how disconnected it makes me feel, how it messes with expectations and reality.

i'm not saying this as some "porn is evil" moral crusade or whatever. i don’t judge anyone who watches it, and i’m not suddenly some enlightened monk or anything. but i can't shake this feeling that it's just not... good for me anymore. like, instead of making me feel satisfied, it just leaves me feeling worse. idk, maybe i'm just overthinking it. maybe it's just a phase. or maybe i'm just realizing something i wasn’t ready to admit before.

 

[RossoX]

i don’t even know where to start with this, but i just need to get this off my chest. i feel like i’m reaching a point where i don’t just dislike ntr, but porn as a whole is starting to feel... off. like, i used to think it was just ntr that pissed me off. the whole idea of betrayal, manipulation, and just watching someone get humiliated like that, it stopped feeling like "just a fetish" to me and started feeling gross. it’s weird because i never really thought that deeply about it before, but now, every time i see it, it just ruins my mood completely.

but then i started realizing, it's not just ntr. the more i look at porn in general, the more it starts feeling... empty? repetitive? fake? idk how to describe it, but it’s like i’ve become aware of how hollow it all is. at first, it was just the usual burnout yk? when you’ve seen too much, and nothing really excites you anymore. but now, it’s like i see through it. like, i see how exploitative it is, how disconnected it makes me feel, how it messes with expectations and reality.

i'm not saying this as some "porn is evil" moral crusade or whatever. i don’t judge anyone who watches it, and i’m not suddenly some enlightened monk or anything. but i can't shake this feeling that it's just not... good for me anymore. like, instead of making me feel satisfied, it just leaves me feeling worse. idk, maybe i'm just overthinking it. maybe it's just a phase. or maybe i'm just realizing something i wasn’t ready to admit before.

cool story bro.

Real talk now: get away from the stuff for a LONG while, completely, I'm talking AT LEAST 1 month without even glancing at an image or sites (like here). You might be over-abusing porn and you're clearly burned out (you said it yourself).

The only sensible thing to do now is to get some distance and focus on other hobbies and things. Then, after you've cleansed yourself and have touched enough grass, give it a try again in small doses. By that point, maybe you'll actually discover how to consume this medium in a more healthy manner, or maybe it will just confirm your aversion further. Either way, you must first stop for a while, otherwise you're setting yourself up for a miserable experience.

 

[Letstryitout]

It seems to me, somehow you dabbled with NTR even though you'll know you get hurt. What you describe is very common for males, even for non-ntr adult content. When post nut clarity hits, the emptiness begins, but the feeling is worse with NTR because of the content. Some people like NTR for this very reason too because feeling is heavier and more personal. I'll say it will pass, but you will very likely to feel this way again in the future, nothing we can do about it, take some time off from adult content for a while.

 

[tanstaafl]

i don’t even know where to start with this, but i just need to get this off my chest. i feel like i’m reaching a point where i don’t just dislike ntr, but porn as a whole is starting to feel... off. like, i used to think it was just ntr that pissed me off. the whole idea of betrayal, manipulation, and just watching someone get humiliated like that, it stopped feeling like "just a fetish" to me and started feeling gross. it’s weird because i never really thought that deeply about it before, but now, every time i see it, it just ruins my mood completely.

but then i started realizing, it's not just ntr. the more i look at porn in general, the more it starts feeling... empty? repetitive? fake? idk how to describe it, but it’s like i’ve become aware of how hollow it all is. at first, it was just the usual burnout yk? when you’ve seen too much, and nothing really excites you anymore. but now, it’s like i see through it. like, i see how exploitative it is, how disconnected it makes me feel, how it messes with expectations and reality.

i'm not saying this as some "porn is evil" moral crusade or whatever. i don’t judge anyone who watches it, and i’m not suddenly some enlightened monk or anything. but i can't shake this feeling that it's just not... good for me anymore. like, instead of making me feel satisfied, it just leaves me feeling worse. idk, maybe i'm just overthinking it. maybe it's just a phase. or maybe i'm just realizing something i wasn’t ready to admit before.

Sounds like your empathy gland's balls finally dropped.

 

[Dryme]

ntr. the more i look at porn in general, the more it starts feeling... empty? repetitive? fake? idk how to describe it, but it’s like i’ve become aware of how hollow it all is. at first, it was just the usual burnout yk? when you’ve seen too much, and nothing really excites you anymore. but now, it’s like i see through it. like, i see how exploitative it is, how disconnected

I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real

 

[Geigi]

Of course you hate it, NTR shows how women are treated in life, but ofc it's romanticised with the way how female characters live only for sex.

 

[Icarus Media]

Of course you hate it, NTR shows how women are treated in life, but ofc it's romanticised with the way how female characters live only for sex.

And yet interestingly you look at the media marketed to women in terms of the erotic such as Mills & Boon novels and it seems to have a common theme of an affair with Mr tall, dark and handsome does it not? And again when the infamous Fifty Shades (though a BDSM more than a NTR novel admittedly) came out about a very rich man with sordid degrading tastes that reduced the woman to a sexual object, it's most widely purchasing consumer was women. It's seems therefore a logical conundrum that women seem to go for the very thing they decry. How odd...

Here come the claws....

 

[Dryme]

It's seems therefore a logical conundrum that women seem to go for the very thing they decry. How odd...

If your words are true, then I have found the answer to one of my questions....

 

[Dryme]

female characters live only for sex.

when in real life women don't have orgasms and they don't need sex at all

 

[Icarus Media]

If your words are true, then I have found the answer to one of my questions....

Please post a funny meme or troll comment, when you are serious it's disturbing and scary.

 

[Icarus Media]

when in real life women don't have orgasms and they don't need sex at all

Ah there it is...phew...I was worried there....

 

[Geigi]

And yet interestingly you look at the media marketed to women in terms of the erotic such as Mills & Boon novels and it seems to have a common theme of an affair with Mr tall, dark and handsome does it not? And again when the infamous Fifty Shades (though a BDSM more than a NTR novel admittedly) came out about a very rich man with sordid degrading tastes that reduced the woman to a sexual object, it's most widely purchasing consumer was women. It's seems therefore a logical conundrum that women seem to go for the very thing they decry. How odd...

Here come the claws....

Don't know who Mills and Boon are, i rarely read books because they bore me. I prefer watching movies and TV Series, but it's funny that you compare Japanese NTR hentai(as is it's origin)with women's writing? If you actually read forums, you would know that one half of women liked Fifty Shades and other didn't liked it. Even people in BDSM community said that does not represent healthy relationship and have nothing in common with BDSM.

 

[Dryme]

women's writing?

Damn, it even sounds funny

 

[Icarus Media]

Don't know who Mills and Boon are, i rarely read books because they bore me. I prefer watching movies and TV Series, but it's funny that you compare Japanese NTR hentai(as is it's origin)with women's writing? If you actually read forums, you would know that one half of women liked Fifty Shades and other didn't liked it. Even people in BDSM community said that does not represent healthy relationship and have nothing in common with BDSM.

Forums are opinion though, saying 'if you actually read forums' which was a little testy a response, does not mitigate the actions rather than the opinions themselves, if we look at the figures, it allegedly grossed nearly $100 million dollars alone in it's first weekend, and I scarecely need mention that a book marketed to women, will most likely NOT be purchased by men for those figures. Alas I cannot yet find the demographic statistics of the sex/gender that did buy it, but nonetheless simple logic would hold that on the balance of probabilities more women than men bought it and therefore opinion is irrelevant as opposed to the result of actions of the will.

 

[Icarus Media]

Damn, it even sounds funny

Now you're just being plain misogynistic, at least I can debate in good faith.

Also you need memes not just comments.

 

[Icarus Media]

Dammit I forgot they made it into a film, all the data I'm finding is the bloody film data...

 

[Letstryitout]

And yet interestingly you look at the media marketed to women in terms of the erotic such as Mills & Boon novels and it seems to have a common theme of an affair with Mr tall, dark and handsome does it not? And again when the infamous Fifty Shades (though a BDSM more than a NTR novel admittedly) came out about a very rich man with sordid degrading tastes that reduced the woman to a sexual object, it's most widely purchasing consumer was women. It's seems therefore a logical conundrum that women seem to go for the very thing they decry. How odd...

Here come the claws....

Is there a correlation between Softcore stuff(Fifty Shades of Grey) and Hardcore(EG: NTR)? I know lots of Incels state that NTR is female-centric, simply putting basis on this notion alone, yet there is no source to support this claim outside of this as far as I'm aware.

 

[Icarus Media]

Is there a correlation between Softcore stuff and Hardcore(EG: NTR)? I know lots of Incels state that NTR is female-centric, simply putting basis on this notion alone, yet there is no source to support this claim outside of this as far as I'm aware.

I've heard that claim too, that NTR itself is female orientated and I also found nothing concrete in terms of data. How they are deducing that I have no idea, but I prefer some hard data or logical deduction to be honest.

 

[Dryme]

I've heard that claim too, that NTR itself is female orientated and I also found nothing concrete in terms of data. How they are deducing that I have no idea, but I prefer some hard data or logical deduction to be honest.

Because women mostly cheat in relationships....

 

[its_not_real]

i used to think it was just ntr that pissed me off. the whole idea of betrayal, manipulation, and just watching someone get humiliated like that, it stopped feeling like "just a fetish" to me and started feeling gross. it’s weird because i never really thought that deeply about it before, but now, every time i see it, it just ruins my mood completely.

Is someone forcing you to watch/play?

but then i started realizing, it's not just ntr. the more i look at porn in general, the more it starts feeling... empty? repetitive? fake? idk how to describe it, but it’s like i’ve become aware of how hollow it all is

Sounds like a porn addiction you finally starting to realize you had, but could be something else too ofc.

I'm not saying this as some "porn is evil" moral crusade or whatever. i don’t judge anyone who watches it, and i’m not suddenly some enlightened monk or anything. but i can't shake this feeling that it's just not... good for me anymore.

Then it probably isn't, is someone forcing you?
Again, maybe you have an addiction. I'm not trying to shame you, I am trying to explain what it COULD be.
Your brain seems to try to tell you to stop, so, stop...

Not sure what your goal is in this thread, are you asking for help/advice?
I have a friend that nearly destroyed his life with prn addiction, both social wise and economically so this hits close to home for me.
IF you are asking for advice, then:

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In a 2014 study performed by the University of Cambridge, researchers found that the same reward centers of the brain were activated when 19 different compulsive porn users watched pornography as when addicts saw their drug or drink of choice. Similarly, many people that are addicted to porn and attempt to stop go through the same symptoms of withdrawal that drug users and alcoholics also experience. The Kinsey Institute Survey found that 9% of porn viewers have tried to stop the behavior and been unsuccessful.

I AM NOT TRYING TO SHAME YOU!!