Depends on the girl and what you describe as a better way. Some girls have chat combinations when phoning them which will raise kink (Hanna, Bree come to mind), same with direct conversation when meeting. That's a RNG thing though, they have other lines which will not kink 'em up.
Also some sexual practices and positions will raise kink, again depending on girl, that requires a whole date though, takes time, and mostly needs some kink to start with.
But yeah, in the end there are some books where you will probably buy entire editions for yourself and give 'em out.
