Well, let me ask you, are you creating a harem or NTR game? If somebody else comes along and said that your game is NTR and not harem, will you just then comply and said, "Okay, I may be the creator, but I clearly don't know more than you."You're right, so that's what i was thinking noe like giving characters more depth so they would feel more real i can totally relate to what u r saying as i never expected ppl to react this way but what am i supposed to do? should i remove both harem and ntr tag? or stop posting here altogether?
You have already said it, you are creating a harem game. If there is no NTR choices and contents, there is no need to pander to the angry crowd that just screams NTR every time some woman didn't bang the MC. Hell, if you create a harem game and there is a mom and a dad, and the mom banged the dad, they will still scream NTR.
As a game creator, you can't please everyone. Just stick to your vision, create your game, and then listen to the feedback that actually matters, such as gameplay, plot development, UI, etc. not somebody's definition of NTR, or why your characters are alive in their own setting.
Anyway, if Sarah's situation is consider NTR, then are we suddenly playing as Brad? Hope that helps your perspective.