- Sep 13, 2020
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Everyone forget my shit post!
I have to respectfully disagree here. Why is it so hard to admit that she is, in fact, humiliating him by this very act and he is participating and accepting it? I think we tend to deny this in order to preserve a pure idea of love which can't be disturbed by humiliation. But instead, i think we have to acknowledge the central role of power and possession here. If you speak of reclaiming her then you also have to recognize, that she annulled his claim just before by giving herself to another guy. Or we have to drop this language once and for all and pretend sex has nothing to do with possession. Possession is by definition exclusive in this context. she is NOT very much his after that, these are mere formulas couples find to get over this. She is not a car you can lend and bring back. And he is very much not a pimp to lend her out. One cannot have both, claiming, that she is exploring HER sexuality, that she is engaging in HER fantasies and not seeing that she is acting on her own behalf. Him allowing it doesn't change that. And regarding power: there is a rearrangement of roles here, in your interpretation you are describing him doing something for her, for her activities. Being thankful for that is not the same as being committed, it is not the same, the play has shifted. What she does for herself, she doesn't do for both of them, what she gives the other guy she takes from him, these are the hard truths in monogamous relationships. A heterosexual man cleaning her from an other guy is feeling humiliation in this moment and she knows that. He has to overcome a natural repulsion and doing that is humiliating, and this is the very fact which arouses him in that moment, not the sperm itself of course. And using this act in order to absolve herself from feelings of shame uses him as an instrument for that. That Mila feels that way as in the game I find totally understandble from her perspective, she wants to be absolved, she wants to be accepted, she want the contradictions reconciled. But we as observer can't do the same and be honest at the same time.
One cannot just draw a line here according to one's own subjective preferences. Why is it "crazy" to tolerate a pregnancy from another guy, but it is okay to lick his semen? This is an arbitrary line. One could argue she is also "his" with this child if she says so.
This idea, that a couple can do that and have the same kind of love seems to me a utopia of people (I speak generally here, as one can find this in all kinds of threads here) who want their kink but not the inevitable consequences. Some men want to sense the intensity of the play of power and possession but have love like before anyway, totally abstract, above the flesh so to speak. Another question could be if there is another kind of love which is compatible with humiliation, but it is not the love they had before. Games show their quality (as this one) when they don't try to disguise or cover that but bring it in the open.
