262177 the render was made a some of weeks ago i just uploaded it. Longest it took was to search the save location. And i really appreciate your answer no need to apologize all over again. Your answers are a pleasure to read, and detailed to bring your thoughts to "paper". But i have to correct one point of a possible misunderstanding. BDSM is not all about pain and humiliation, and i prefer the parts without (much) pain. After a session role play with my wife where spanking was involved she asked my, why i didn't spank her harder. Yeah a big part is "tame/discipline" your Sub as a Dom, but there are as many ways to do it painless as there are painful ones. My personal favorite is a long-term punishment the orgasm denial. Male or Female will get really fast in an very upset mindset if you play with them (sexually) and deny them the orgasm over an extended period of hours, and as a punishment even days. But such things only work in consensual ways cos your not always together and if the partner ignores the rules and finishes him/herself off no gain and play over. And the most think i like about BDSM is you can be creative with your sexlife. Only your imagination and your partner are setting limits.
e.g.: If your partner hates anal penetration... you can do everything else but not that. And in my experience most who openly admit their fetish and are part of the community are more self-centered and more confident to talk about their likes and dislikes than others
(wouldn't be surprised that a lot of married people never have talked with their partner about sexual likes and dislikes, sex is a taboo in most cultures even in the so called open minded west culture. But every body does it (ok most do it) for driving a car you need a license, to fuck you only have to go to your first stages of puperty. Sorry for the blunt phrasing)
anne O'nymous understood and and its reassuring to read your words. That alone let me think that it wasn't a bad idea to post it.
