I insert as all 3 but in order it's probably a tie between the cuck and cuckoldee, with the cuckolder last. People who fantasize about being bullies really freak me out. Why? They seem to hate women or hate people they see as weak. Often it's a joke because they will almost always be engaging with things that never have the bully's POV and the bully is an asshole who has no redeemable qualities. I think the real heartache and real pain comes from when the other guy/gal is strong but not a complete asshole. Then it makes it where the cuck actually lost to someone who is better all around rather than just an asshole with a bigger dick etc.