True, but what are the odds of changing what's essentially human's nature? I'd say close to none.
The great majority of people that approve of porn wouldn't want a whore as a daughter or mother, they might openly say "Sure, there's nothing wrong with it", but more often than not it's a lie to appear as progressive.
I think the only part of this that could be called "human nature" is that most men tend to have a higher sex drive than most women, especially in their youth. But even that shifts with age: women’s libido often increases in their 30s and 40s, while men’s tends to decline.
The rest, our social systems, norms, and values around sex, are historically developed responses to managing that imbalance. Monogamy, for example, is a cultural convention, not a law of nature. And it’s far from universal, even across different points in Western history.
In fact, society’s standards on sexuality have changed
a lot in just the last 60 years. Divorce used to be taboo, being single after a certain age was frowned upon, and premarital sex was heavily stigmatized. Today, that’s no longer the case in many places.
Also, if you look into truly progressive circles, you’ll find people, both women and men, working in porn who are proud of what they do. There are even porn film festivals where people gather to watch and discuss explicit films that are artistic, political, or experimental (often queer, sometimes strange, but mostly interesting).
One example is the
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. If you ever have the chance to attend something like that, it can be eye-opening. The “lewd world” really isn’t just black and white.
I am too dumb to say for sure whether Porn by itself can be damaging or not, I'd say yes, but I'd be ready to be proven wrong.
At the very least when it comes to Adult Games, you already start off with knowing that it's unrealistic fiction... When it comes to porn, especially younger adult audience, can set off some unrealistic expactations and views.
As for Onlyfans, there's the whole parasocial relationship which can also be quite harmful.
In both cases, you're dealing with intense content, and sure, it might affect certain people negatively, but most people are able to process it without any issues.
That said, I do think porn and lewd games probably engage different aspects of the psyche. Porn leans more on realism and visual immediacy, while games are more about interactivity and player agency. Both can shape expectations in their own ways, but I wouldn't be quick to say one is clearly more intense than the other. If anything, they just affect people differently, and how someone interprets either one depends a lot on their mindset, context, and media literacy.
And regarding parasocial relationships, just look at how many people might want to kill a dev, if their most beloved Waifu in a Harem-Game looks at another man than the MC. That’s textbook parasocial behavior: a one-sided emotional connection taken to an unhealthy level. So the idea that porn is somehow uniquely harmful while adult games are "safer" doesn’t really hold up. The medium may differ, but the psychological dynamics can be very similar.
In general, we can all say porn is degrading. No one would want to see a loved one to be degraded and treated as an object.
Intimacy should be a private act of love in my opinion.
That depends entirely on the kind of porn you’re talking about.
There is surely lots of degrading mainstream porn out there. But look at "The good girl" from Erika Lust. A very sensitive porn-movie, written by a woman, very well done and as far as I know, available for free on her website:
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And if you look into the BDSM- and BDSM-Porn-Scene. People there are even celebrating degredation. Totally consensual.
However, this isn't a fantasy world, prostitutes have always existed and will always exist, that's why despite my personal opinions, I am against banning Onlyfans/Prostitution. Nothing good comes off prohibiting them.
Legal prostitution is always better than illegal one which puts women to harm and abuse, if you can't realistically eliminate something, you should at the very least control it and offer a save environment (Which happens to be true for Alcohol and Drugs as well).
That’s absolutely the point. We can’t (and at least in my eyes shouldn't) eliminate and sex work, but we
should reduce harm on those who do them by making it legal, regulated, and safe. And that’s ultimately a much more humane and realistic approach than moral condemnation or prohibition.
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Sorry for the long post, but this topic really engages me, especially since adult actresses and sex workers, even in some Western countries, still face not only heavy social stigma but also legal challenges. And for every star making millions on OnlyFans, there are many more who struggle just to pay their rent, if they can at all. Still, many of them, both women and men, do their work proudly and with a lot of passion, especially among indie performers and ethical porn creators, who often struggle the most.
