look dude, if you don't want to grind then you don't have to grind. it's entirely possible to win battles despite being ten or fifteen levels below your opponent. if you're also allergic to being good at the game, it's the easiest thing in the world to modify RPGM savefiles to, say, add a hundred rare candies to your bag or whatever. and you know what? literally nobody will care if you do.
this isn't a porn game, this is a Pokemon game with porn. the focus of the game is not to make you nut, that's just extra content thrown in because why not. if you play Pokemon Ruby because you're looking for a high fantasy, epic, "save the world" type JRPG, you're going to be disappointed even though that's technically part of the game, because Pokemon Ruby is first and foremost a Pokemon game, with the high fantasy "save the world from a godlike being and the cult that unleashed it" being basically an afterthought to justify having legendary Pokemon and a villain team. same for this game; the porn is there to spice up the experience, not to be the main entree.
almost every complaint i've seen (that wasn't a bug report) has been because people mistake what this game is. it's been a year and a half now; it should be obvious by now that complaining the game doesn't have a larger focus on porn isn't going to change anything.