On that page, I think that you wanted to focus on this post specifically:
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The poster notes that enabling SLI actually increases render times slightly. Also, note that he's using 2080 Ti's with an SLI link, hence my comment before r.e. that I wasn't sure which 20xx cards supported NV link. The 2080 Ti's can (if implemented), not sure about the lesser cards.
People have also reported more 'render fails' with SLI enabled, in various posts on the Daz forum over the years, hence the recommendation to just not use SLI when rendering (that's not my recommendation, that comes from various Daz gurus over at the Daz forum). Those 'crashing issues' may or may not have been ironed out by now, but you'll still have slightly increased render times...
Do keep in mind that if you are doing CPU + GPU renders, that the CPU ALSO needs to reserve a block of memory for the scene, just like the cuda cards do with their VRAM. So in this instance, damn straight your system ram usage will go up. But of course, if you leave CPU unchecked in the render options, you'll generally find that your system is a bit more responsive, as the CPU isn't focused on crunching a render... unless your render drops to CPU only of course!
Also, the system may set aside ram anyways for the scene, in anticipation of a potential 'CPU only' render situation (i.e. not have to recompute the scene from scratch if there's not enough VRAM). That's just speculation on my part though, others can confirm or otherwise clarify if that is indeed the case.