Going to add to the question. I absolutely love DOL in all ways except for the submissive focus and lack of control.
I adore the advanced RPG/stats mechanics replicating details of sexual features / intercourse details that I can't find in any other game. The game tracks ml of cum across like 8 different body parts! (Does any other game come close?)
I love it except for the submissiveness frame, which is sadly a complete boner-kill for me. Trying to play this game as such, and entering consensual scenes without having almost any control over the intercourse, not being able to choose what I want to do, and the scene always ending when the other character orgasms, altogether make me quit whenever I pick it up for the insanely good stat-tracking and realistic world. I can max out all the dominant stats on a muscular large male, and I still feel like I'm getting raped by a tiny girl at school calling me her little slut, without being able to stick it where I want or control where to orgasm. I still see how many ml of cum my bulky dude drank as a PC, instead of how many he delivered. To me, it's a major turn-off, and a huge missed opportunity there to build on top of this world, but appeal to the majority male player-base by flipping the switch on the submissive fantasy quite a bit.
A perfect game for me would be DOL that flips the script on the submissiveness. Not changing the story, but some dialogues and interactions, and focusing on and tracking how PC interacts with those around them. Giving full control and a broad choice of interactions, with different options enabled depending on the many existing stats. I believe this could easily be a great mod, or an expansion. There has been a lot of great progress made on the main game after all, but not much steering it away from submissiveness (beyond settings toggles dialing some extremities down).
1. Are there any such mods in the works? Or any in the works to flip the script from submissiveness to dominant? None of those published on the official website seem to address this.
2. Or any other games with equally advanced RPG / sex interaction mechanics, set in at least a similarly realistic human world, with much more control over interactions as a male PC? I checked CoC, TITS and the likes already and I don't think they're comparable, and very species-fetishized. Jack o Nine was good, tracking plenty of details, but DOL makes it feel simple, old and its world very limited in comparison.