Not going to reply to anyone individually, but I will say this - this argument has no purpose, and even if it were among patrons, it would still not, so it's not because of the venue. It's been discussed to death, and very few of the arguments are good arguments, for or against. These decisions have already been made, and it's not open for endless debate. This isn't the Blood War.
Long story short: pronouns don't really matter and if people want to identify more with the player character or experience their gender identity shifting, I'm fine with it. The content we put in the game is directly related to our target audience, and only indirectly related to our actual audience. If our entire audience wanted hardcore gore tomorrow, they wouldn't get it. We're not mercenaries, we're entertainers. We want to please our audience, which is why we take surveys and interact with them, but we'll continue to make what we want to make, and we're lucky that we do have an audience that happens to like that.
When we started, we got dire warnings from people that if we didn't make a female protagonist, we'd never find an audience. There absolutely is an audience for androgynous content, gay content, bi content, etc. And we've never had a problem with making a female protagonist, as an example: we just chose not to prioritize it, and if or when we do, it'll be because we choose to, and not because a lightbulb went off and someone synthesized the perfect way to repeat "some people like female protagonists," or measured enough angels on the head of a pin to know exactly what constitutes something being "gay".
I look forward to writing this again in the future. This wasn't the first time and it won't be the last. People will continue to vaguely allude to this post to advance their arguments. The Blood War never ends.