Who should take the initiative? The MC or the girl?

[Adabelitoo]

This question focuses on games with male MCs and sex is totally consensual. Taking the initiative doesn't mean rape or domination/humilliation on the partner.

I have met both here and IRL people who turn off when the girl is the one who takes the initiative and she suddenly kisses you or something letting you know that she wants to have fun. Some of them have told me that they feel that way because the man should always take the initiative similar to when a guy asks out the girl and not the other way. Others have told me (and this comes way more from people here than IRL but I know guys like that IRL too) that since the game is for men, everything should be for the man and whenever the man wants it and not the woman.

Other guys have told me both here and IRL, and I'm with them, that it's even hotter when the girl comes to you for sex, because what could be bad in a girl suddenly asking for your dick? The main reason others gave me, and it applies to me too, is that we men are always ready to go and your girl making you know that she's horny and ready to go too feel awesome. Extra points applies here where all women are hot and gorgeous.

Of course, prefer one of these cases doesn't mean that the other one must be a complete turn off. Just wondering what people prefers when the sex scene is about to come.

 

[SkyRebel]

 

[Akoonx]

Both are okay, it depends on the personality and personal situation of each character.

 

[Meridian]

I played too much games recently where 95% of sex scenes start with women basically asking "hey baby wanna fuck?" then main character nods and they have sex. It feels like developers are afraid of making main character appear pushy/rapey so they fall to women always initiate sex routine or sex as reward for something main character does routine. Its not a turn off but its very boring to play as dildo vending machine.

Drawing parallels between real life and porn games for this topic is kind of silly I think. 9 times out of 10 when women initiates sex IRL I will find it very cool and hot but in porn games its just different.

 

[215303j]

It depends on the power balance in my opinion.

If the woman is in a weaker position, e.g. because she's much younger or in some way dependent on the MC (daughter, secretary etc.) then she should take the initiative.

The man is weaker, then the situation becomes more interesting if he initiates it. Otherwise it's a bit boring.

If they are equal, it doesn't matter too much. But it can be funny if neither dare to make the first move for some reason.

 

[anne O'nymous]

The main reason others gave me, and it applies to me too, is that we men are always ready to go

You're still young, right ? Profit, profit
More seriously, men are always ready to go mostly because they are more often denied. Therefore, like we depend less of our own mood, when an occasion is offered, we take it.


Now, for the answer to your question, globally I don't care. Ideally, it should be sometimes one, and sometimes the other.
This said, I tend to agree with Thialf , it depend of the power balance. And I would add that it also depend of the girl's personality. By example, a shy girl will never take the initiative. She can try to provoke it, but will never go further. This while a girl more opened while never hesitate. And it's something that generally feel wrong in games, especially harem ones. There's always a slutty girl among the one available, she's describe as having had many partners just during the last months... but once with the MC she'll never take the initiative :/

Finally, for those who don't like when a girl take the initiative, well sorry but personally I really like when a girl do it. It's so fucking pleasant to feel loved and desired.

 

[woody554]

depends on the story you want to tell. a femdom heroine can't be timid or it just ruins the fetish. a sweet young virgin girl can't be aggressively gagging for a dick or it ruins the fetish.

of course you can have a tough hardened femdom character who at some point reveal a soft vulnerable inside under all the battle armor, but a) that weakens her more important primary role, and b) you can't show that soft inside before you establish the hardness. and even then it's tricky, most likely the character will just seem random and badly written.

 

[shane420]

Several valid points were brought up and I'd have to agree with general consensus of it depends on: 1. personality of protaganist 2. Personality of the character your interacting with. Me personally i love games that show growth and developemnt in personality as well as personality shifts or changes the more you interact with them.

 

[DuniX]

Everything that isn't women initiating is Rape. Prove me wrong.
#belive_all_women

 

[Pretentious Goblin]

I like the dynamic of Ruin Me, where she's already read all of MC's BDSM material and she approaches him/her, making it abundantly clear what she wants... but she's also incredibly shy and needs a very gentle approach at first. "Wanna fuck?" type approaches do absolutely nothing for me, no matter who initiates. I play these games for the psychological aspect, the sex scenes are just one part of the appeal. Once it gets to ''wanna fuck?" territory, I've probably already lost interest and looking stuff up on imageboards.

 

[Guntag]

Both is better. Too often it's only the MC.