You and Me and her (totono) is one of the best visual novels ever, up there with legends like Muramasa, Fata Morgana and White Album 2. End of the review. Go read it?
NO! STOP! Only read totono, if you already have some experience with this type of visual novels. That's what everyone here (f95) fails to mention, and they are doing you a disservice when considering the amazing experience totono is.
Read a handful of medium/long duration visual novels, before trying this one!
Now you, my unobserved but very much real friend, might be thinking:
"Why? I'm a smart cookie. I'm well read, (know my classics) and I'm familiar with Japanese idiosyncrasies from other entertainment mediums."
It's not enough, I'm afraid. High intelligence is not the main requirement to understanding things in this world (it's experience and repetition). Books have little to do with visual novels and their tropes, and "watching Virginia hanging out with little boys in spandex***", doesn't make you an authority in anything Japanese.
It sounds elitist (and condescending) as all hell, but I genuinely want you to enjoy this, and believe what I said, so at the very least, you can believe I have your best interest at heart.
As for the review, I already have a long, pretentious, and pseudo-intellectual one in VNDB (You are not surprised? Why, that's both shocking and original!), so let me just point out the essentials:
There's hundreds of things that you can miss in totono (literally). Even if you give this your best attention, you will still miss out on things (I know I did). Reading it twice is the best course of action, if at all possible. Totono is a handcrafted masterpiece, where everything leads to something else: Example: the batting cage scenes, the can of juice, the phone connection etc...
The message and themes delivered are the true treasure of totono. Without spoilers, the main idea is that Faith/Destiny is a real thing, and life only has one destination, but the beauty of it all, is that while you are here, you can steer things in your chosen direction. A mix of determinism and free will so to speak. Pay close attention to the intro, and the stairs. It starts right away.
The rest is all pretty good: V.A has "zappy girl" delivering one of the best performances you ever heard; The OST is great (not top tier); The visuals are all about ambience and an ethereal, otherworldly feeling; The setting starts normal, but quickly blows your mind; The translation (dare I say this?) might actually improve things to English speakers. The characters have depth, lots of traits, proper motivations etc.. (Love me some Miyuki, if she is not unique and amazing, then I don't know what is); The big twist is unforgettable. You will remember Totono, and more... I have nothing to say on the NTR front, read "things" with tags you are comfortable with, is my advice.
"What about the bad fanboy" - "Are you gonna tell me this is perfect?" - Aptly put my jaded virtual acquaintance! Yes, there is bad here. The one choice that ties everything together, is out of your hands. They screwed up in that regard (if you read it, I mean the moment when YOU say you love Miyuki, and are FORCED to promise her something), nothing is perfect. There, are you happy now?
So yeah buddy, please don't become another one of those "Oh I don't understand totono, or why this is supposed to be good, so I will just give it a 6 or 7/10, dismiss it, and classify the people who recommend it as pompous/arrogant" (well, the last part is not wrong, but the first claim is a crime). Finally, there is a reason why I didn't mention DDLC up until now: It's STUPID to even compare them. It's not "oranges and apples", but it's a regular apple, VS one from the garden of Hesperides (oh boy, I'm going all out with the fedora today).
This is a 10/10,(a REAL 10, unlike some others I have given here, which are based on scope and comparisons), and I only recognize 5 other visual novels (in English) in the same tier as totono (Kamige, or the really good stuff). Read this, and you have my freaking assurance, that this is AN ACTUAL EXPERIENCE, just do your best to prepare yourself, so that you have the best of times with Totono. One more thing, go in blind. No walkthroughs or spoilers of any kind, but you already knew that.
*** That can't be obscure, it has 50M plus views on youtube.