I think from a purely male perspective people have a tendency to compare themselves to others. No matter what kind of guy you are, even if you're at your physical peak there is always someone "better" that's just how things work. Eventually the difference comes down to personality and how well people click with chemistry.
I think the debate around cuckolding is interesting and multifaceted. Everyone has their own preferences.
I came to cuckolding as a fetish very late. It started out as an intense sexual gratification from having conversations with my female friends about their sex lives and hearing details about how they got into sexual situations that turned me on immensely. Since then I think it's safe to say I've been a bit of a voyeur. I get off on stuff like when I'm traveling and I start hearing loud sex from the neighboring hotel rooms.
My cuckolding fetish is born out of our current social taboos about cheating and promiscuous women.
It turns me on to see a woman doing something she "isn't supposed to" for her sexual gratification.
The fact that a cuckold has to stay monogamous while his partner has sex with other people to me is extremely exciting because from a positive perspective she cares enough that it would hurt her to see you sleeping with others so she still wants you to be hers and in her life while simultaneously despite all the sex she's having with others you still matter to her. Her coming back despite sexual variety means there's a deeper, stronger bond that isn't broken with superficial physical desires. So in that sense my cuckolding fetish is very selfish. It may seem like I'm giving up a lot, but emotionally I'm the centre of her attention. She wants me to watch her getting off and likes that I'm getting off on her getting off. In essence she may be in the throes of sexual passion with another man but I'm still the centre of her world. It's messed up, I get it but ultimately that somehow means a lot more to me than sexual exclusivity.
Ultimately I think real cuckolding is predicated on a deep sense of trust and connection and those relationships are very strong. If you broke up because of cuckolding (rather than personality differences or normal reasons people break up in relationships) then it's likely you were never going to succeed as a couple even without it.
For me I enjoy the humiliation aspect because it frees me from "responsibility". In other words I don't need to perform, I don't need to meet an expectation, the bar gets set artificially low such that I get to get off on her having sex and getting pleasure without having to think about my own performance in the process.
I have seen and dated a lot of women in my life, cuckolding creates an artificial scarcity that makes me desire the hotwife in ways I normally wouldn't if she was just "mine". I get off on seeing or hearing her have sex in perspectives and situations I normally wouldn't be able to experience because I am directly involved in the situation. Ultimately years of unconscious conditioning from watching porn allows me to experience a form of sex I'm "used to" compared to being directly involved in it.
I'm well endowed, I am at least decent in sex and occupying the "junior" role in a threesome where I sit back and watch isn't about my shortcomings perceived or otherwise. But I love to pretend that I'm sexually inadequate because it gives me a dopamine rush, I like temporarily being induced into wanting something I can't have and seeing someone else get it and then getting my release later after she's had her turn.
It's all about vicarious pleasure from a varied experience that is different from yours, seeing a woman fully give into her lust and break every social more that requires her to restrain her sexual behavior and ultimately exploring the worst case scenarios associated with jealousy to their final conclusion only to see that despite everything you as a couple are still here and still going strong.
The creampie eating fetish is a degrading humiliation, yes , but for me it's more about the symbolic consumption of her sex act to make it a part of you. Sort of like those voodoo stereotypes where you consume someone's heart to take their power. It's kinda like that. You sort of vicariously make the sex a part of you and that's thrilling. I will acknowledge I never did that in real life and while i'd try it once I think there's a good chance I might not like the real thing compared to the idea of it all and that's fine. You live and learn.
Everyone is different and I think our relentless desire to catalogue and categorize content kinda runs counter to the fact that real life relationships involving stuff like "cuckolding" are so fluid it can be hard to categorize.
Some people when they hear cuckolding thinkg "Chastity cages, creampie eating and humililation"
Others think "One sided polyamory and compersion"
Others yet think "Swinging" in the most basic of tenses.
all are equally correct and all of them are interchangable. It just depends on your mood.
I for example have been riding out the extreme cuckolding route in the game and enjoying it. Would I want to be married to a 100% black owned wife where I'm in chastity and never get sex? No probably not. Far more likely we'd play with a regular bull once in a while and in between that we'd have a normal ass relationship where we still have sex.
But I'm also interested in varied and different experiences. I'll be playing the fuck out of the pending Riya route because I'm also interested in the drama of Ethan and Nat breaking up with Ethan finding a "better" woman in Riya.
Long story short. Enjoying certain sex acts and fantasies doesn't automatically fully commit you to a specific label like cuckold or gay. Those are shorthand ways to categorize things so you don't have to write essays about them.
I think getting cucked is only pathetic or weak if it's something that is being done to you against your will and you lack the self respect to put a stop to this behavior or leave the situation. If you believe in yourself, know you are good enough and have self esteem you can do whatever the fuck you want, including humiliation roleplay and come out of it feeling fine.
If you genuinely truly believe you are a pathetic loser, who doesn't deserve pussy, who is otherwise unlovable or inadequate. Then you need therapy, not cuckolding. Your opinion of yourself is the only one that matters. Be kind to you and others will do the same.
