Sorry 'bout your mom and pops, but this is the thing. People have been fucked over by Patreon creators so many times, every excuse in the book has been used. Hell I don't remember who it was, I don't think they have any patreons anymore either, but apparently their mother died... TWICE... Once money get's involved, you will always be judged differently. I've done a lot of amatour theater, mostly for free, but once money get's involved (although I've only done 2-3 shows like that) even if it was just a tiny entrance fee, people's mindset changed completely. There is a reason why people say not to make your hobby your profession or at least look at what aspects you enjoy. You will be judged a long with every other Patreon creator there is and harshly by those who have been burned the most. Is it fair? Maybe not, but it's human nature to create mental boxes to help survive. "Big animals with big teeth = Bad" 'n all that.
In any case, get better, focus on being with your dad and taking care of yourself.