I have a hard time considering Zoey a socializer, she was months in San Diego with 3 friends, it's true that at the Halloween party she talked to several DIKs, but they all spaied she was an MC invitee and plus she's still a girl. other than Jacob is there anyone we can say she particularly socialized with? i don't think so, and we know why Jacob insisted.
the other adjectives are also common to both of them only when taken in the most general sense of the term-what would Derek's dream be? to have fun?
Zoey has already changed her mind about college and instruction , one of the many failures she accumulated in San Diego where she tried to get into college that rejected her for the online graduation she got since she had dropped out of school. Otherwise Zoey would already be in college (and maybe not in BR...).
to me they look really different especially in how they want to be perceived
soc:
i have that feeling, you can easily find the common voice with both of them.
dream:
-Zoey was out for a year. why? dont need a year to realise you are not good at something. but giving up your dream, admit the fail... it need more time and/or event like running out of money and
have to go back. Zoey got the moment when the life slap her.
-i would say Derek's dream is Maya live in peace and he dont have to confront to their dad. exactly as you pointed on it. "have fun". he does nothing else. he is wasting his time as Zoey did. Derek didnt got the moment when the life slap him. (still)
school:
maybe she changed her mind (i dont remembered it)
okay, it was only common is the past. that mean, Zoey could understand Derek about this, because she already was in this boat.
make:
-Derek making drinks
-Zoey making drawings
adventure:
-hell week
-new city