I do agree that lying to spare someone's feelings is forgivable but it is still a lie and that person still needs to make up for it and earn back the trust.
This is actually a key reason why I think a heart-to-heart in the next episode is needed. As much as I understand Maya's reasoning and am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, we still need to hear it from her. She still needs to explain to the MC why she held back on telling him this for so long, and I have faith that, if this conversation occurs, DPC will make it a satisfying one that will hopefully allow people to forgive Maya as well as alleviating any concerns about her feelings for the MC.
That makes it worse for me. Some people would very much hate to start a relationship with someone that was already in a relationship and that person deserves to know. What if the MC thought Maya was single and really wanted to be with her but Josy turned back up and they repaired their relationship? If the MC knew she was with someone from the beginning he might have wanted to give it a go while knowing it may not work out if the other person came back or maybe he would want to wait until she was single so there was no chance that she would just end things to go back to Josy. I think the MC deserved to have that choice.
That is why he deserved to know. If he knew at least he could have been prepared for her to possibly go back to Josy. This is also why some people don't want to start a relationship with someone that is already seeing someone. It was unfair and selfish for Maya to pretend to be single knowing the MC could fall in love with her just for her to go back to Josy and break his heart.
I know that I probably wouldn't want to start a relationship with someone who was already in one, especially one that seems as loving as Maya and Josy's, but somethimes you just have to put your heart out there and hope that you can be the person they really want to be with. It hurts like hell if they don't, but sometimes you just have to take that risk if the person is worth it.
But if he did that to Maya she wouldn't have forgiven him that easy if at all.
Different strokes for different folks, I guess. Some people can handle a prank while others can't, but Maya's trust issues and being initially only interested in girls would have made the reverse situation worse in my view, whereas the MC seems like a reasonably well adjusted guy who can more readily accept a bit of hazing.
Being desperate doesn't excuse anything especially when done to a friend.
A desperate person is often just someone who can't see any other way out and just needs a helping hand. We could all be down there at some point, and I would rather be more concerned with the reasons for the actions than the actions themselves.
That is why I did basically forgive her and very rarely bring it up. I don't really hold that against her much. If she didn't lie about her relationship then I would have 100% forgiven her now.
Hopefully Ep 5 will clear that up.
I think people should be judged on both. I don't think people should get away with doing shitty things just because they are a good person even if they are mistakes. No matter what type of person you are if you do something bad to someone like lying about being in a relationship you still need to earn forgiveness.
Sometimes, the only way we learn is by making mistakes, so I would again not judge them too harshly on what they've done, unless they continue to make them. If they do it more than once, then it's a pattern, but if they're truly sorry for it and it doesn't happen again, then that's enough to earn my forgiveness.