No one else does this. There are people who don't like lots of things. Incest, or MILFS, or Anal, or whatever. But we never get gangs of people jumping into every thread demanding that developers promise to them that there will be no Anal, no hint of Anal, no way for them to even interpret the possibility that Anal might happen someday.
This has to be purposely disingenuous, because no one is so obtuse to not see that they are nothing alike, Harem, Incest, NTR/Sharing/Swinging/hotwife-ing etc are genre bending tags. There isn't a single game that has them that they are not affecting the game's world, hell most of the time THEY are the entire plot of the game. Thats why when you combine diametrically opposed tags like that you get the usual shitshow.
Which is the perfect segue to address the folks that can't seem to grasp why someone will have issue with 'optional' content:
That does not make any sense. Most people are not THAT mental. When something is avoidable we don't give a fuck about it. Optional means optional, you are not obliged to play all content. MC can bath in cow shit, make it optional and he can also eat it and die of cholera, for what I care.
Lets take Harem for example, its predicated by ultimate, bordering on supernatural devotion to the MC, you cannot have a LI simultaneously be supremely loyal and also the town bicycle fucking around at the wrong click of a mouse. Thats just garbage character writing.
If an 'optional' choice in a game makes a LI murder someone, or confess to murder, you can't just go and tell people 'just don't pick the
optional choice'. No, now you the writer have to explain how the fuck this LI is capable of murder. You see how something like that changes perception of a character? How we see her, how we analyze her and how much we are interested in dating her after the fact? Its not a multiverse of character versions like most people try to brush it off, the base/default character backstory/personality
has to be capable of doing it, therefore the character gets judged by that info.
Please don't give developers the idea that most players are unstable crazy people that are frightened by things that they won't even see. That's a tiny minority. Please don't make developers abandon projects because of crazy nonsense requests.
People interested in Incest want the taboo of the Incest, not read and see how others did it before them.
People interested in Corruption want to be the ones corrupting the character, not watch NPC#420 do it, or find the character already corrupted.
People interested in Romance want to read about the LI and MC relationship, not how many dicks they had in college and that the MC is them settling down, diminishing the epicenes of their romance.
People interested in Harem want to be the center of the universe of the LIs, not read and see them service others on technicalities and tag loopholes.
I hope you get the point by now, its the fact that devs pick a popular subgenre as major demographic for their games and then shitting all over what people into that genre love and expect that is the problem.
Question how would some people feel if dev put a forced hard femdom scene, or unavoidable bestiality scenes? there is difference between removing and make it optional so we can all enjoyed! I guess some people a just selfish and seeking for problems.
Selfish and naive is wanting every game to cater to every type of person.
I guarantee you outside of very few, under 20 accounts(on both sides) that you can safely ignore, no one butts into threads that are transparent. If devs decide from the start if they target vanilla(Romance, Harem, Incest), or the NTR/Sharing/Swigging/Rape/Humiliation/Fuck fest crowds and are upfront about it the games are going to be left alone and IMO have a much better shot at finding support from their target audience.
Its the middle of the ground, trying to play both sides, pushing tag lines, insulting everyone's intelligence with technicalities and mental gymnastics that always become controversial.
I don't like NTR. However, I will never understand the obsession about what potential LI's do before they are in a relationship with the main character. Characters have lives that have nothing to do with your MC until they do... As they should.
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Because, while these things have nothing to do with the MC, they have everything to do with these other characters. The story isn't about the MC only, but about MC's interactions with others. And so having those other characters established in more detail helps to understand what they're like.
On purely functional level, it also allows the developer to provide some sex scenes early for people who play porn games (also) for sex scenes, without reducing the plot to "MC meets someone and five minutes later they're fucking like rabbits" which isn't everyone's cup of tea, as far as pace of development goes.
I am sick and tired about this bs rhetoric about the only way to add depth to stories and characters is through showing people fucking!
Just because we are playing an AVN doesn't mean trauma has to be sexual in nature, LI can have baggage without sexual harassment and rape, MC can be motivated to change during the story without getting cheated on in the prologue, the antagonist can be hated without showing him fucking on screen, an AVN should stand on its own without a dream, or a 'voyeuristic' scene in 0.1
The fact that authors can't think of another way to do things than this, tells me all I need to know about their skill.
Side note, unless making a cuckfest game where LI being portrayed as slutty as possible, you don't need details about past, or ongoing sexual activities. You play the popular College Game,
Can you imagine going to a hooker and while you try to get it on she can't stop talking about how some other clients have fucked her? Can you imagine your gf doing that?

These type of discussions being common while dating is nonsense pushed by the closeted armchair enthusiasts that want to read and see that sort of stuff.
They might happen with someone you don't give a fuck about, but not with people you want to date and run off into the sunset, which is the goal for most of these
dating simulators VNs and even then, I guarantee you it doesn't happen during foreplay like the garbage inescapable trope...
LI telling she likes doing it on top is enough to establish that she has experience, you don't need to read, or see her have her organs rearranged to understand she has experience.
If a character has kids I would hope its hint enough they are not virgins without the need to see how that happened.
You don't need to see husband and wife fucking just beacuse you can get away under current tags to believe they are married and they had/have relationships.
Bottom line, more devs should stop being in the business of 'What I can get away with under arbitrary tags' and more in the business 'How I can make every character as desirable as possible to my main demographic, so they can't wait to restart the game and play their routes.'
With that being said, seeing as apparently most main chicks, including the family are
for the streets and proud