The word pervert is so misused. I'm not a pervert for liking anal sex, I'm not a pervert for liking roleplay, and I'm not a pervert for having an uncommon fetish. Am I disgusting? Sure. Am I doing anything wrong? No. Therefore I'm not a pervert

Well, for the most part what I said was just a joke more refering to how I used to think my fetishes were extreme. And then in 1995 the modern internet came into being (in its infancy to be sure, but the basics of what it is now were there) and I found that my fetishes were downright tame compared to a lot of what is out there. Which is disturbing in some ways as one of them is a fairly significant taboo you don't want to admit to among your family and friends at Thanksgiving dinner (well, not unless you have a far more relaxed family than mine), another is one of the most deeply held taboos in humanity (that taboo is of course because of healthy reproduction), and the third - if actually performed in real life (and sometimes just the suggestion of it) is a very serious crime.
And as for whether we are perverts (and I mean any of us) by the dictionary definition, that is open to debate.
1. To cause to turn away from what is right, proper, or good; debase.
2. To corrupt (someone) morally.
synonym:
corrupt.
What is wrong? What is right? What is proper or good?
If you work strictly by the law, to determine what is 'perverse' then... well, actually a lot of us would be perverts for liking the idea of things that are considered crimes, even if we don't have any intention of actually doing them (most of my fetishes, the idea is exciting, but the reality; not so much).
But for most it is based on what they personally approve of, and if you don't conform to that, then you are definitely a pervert.
Personally I don't care about being called a pervert in general, but I don't think I need to share the details with much of anyone.