Say, was there ever a reason given for why the dev team as a whole walked back that decision to have Kinu ignore the MC's pronouns? I was quite surprised when seeing the v0.3.32 patch notes.
I recall Savin and Tobs made some really snarky comments that it was never going to happen, with Tobs throwing around big words as usual to try and sound deep, and their sycophants praising them for the decision.
The reason, while not stated directly by any of the writer/developers, could be because soon even only vagina wielding PCs will be able access Kiyokos content.
You see, lets pretend non of you know anything what I am about to write, Kiyoko is stuck in some kind of dream dimension since she is lacking a real body in our world. So she requires us to provide her some Chi, an energy related to physical presence, so that she could get a new one. And one of easier ways to get Chi is by having sexual intercorse, even if it is not only way of going about it. But game never specified what other options are, but we know that they exist by talking to Kinu.
But onto the sexy stuff. If you had sex as, lets say, PC with vagina only, you would know that Chi can be transfered to a kitsune with any intiment sexual act. Even if you and your partner only had viginas and you both lacked substitute for a dick, you could still transfer chi to them. You get an in game debuff and all, so this is not me talking out of my ass.
So you must think "Great, then there should not be any problems with getting Kiyoko out of that gilded cage. We just fuck and bam, out she goes.". But ohoho, my dear reader, it is not that simple
Since you see, Kiyoko a fickle mistress. As she only accepts essence that comes from penetrative sex in which her partner weilds any kind of dick like object. And I mean any. Just look at her sexual preferences.
As we can see, Kiyoko here rejects the very concept of scissoring.
So the only reason why you can not get Kiyoko out without any phaluas shaped tool is because she refuses any alternative. Since she did not receive any good dicking in last 200 years or so,she is ready to doom herself with eternal solitude. Just because you have no rocket you pocket. And I have to say, In all my years as horny internet surfer, I have never seen such huge craving for dick in all smut I consumed. And I consumed many. Even NTR japanese doujinshi filled with lonely unfulfilled housewives fail to to present, nay, to encompass such hunger for dick.
So where I am going with all of this? Well you see, soon the game will add strap on for vagina wielding characters. And with it, ability to access her content. So yeah, that is basically it. Since vagina only players are usually female or are female PCs, they probably do not want to deal with shitstorm that would come with your family only using male pronouns. They could stand the bitching of us dickgirl/transgirl players, but not with the combination with other groups.
But you may have noticed, I have not talked about big elephant in the room. "What about Kinu and rest of children?", you may ask. "How is that going to work since they are so tightly intertwined with Kiyoko as a whole? Would I be able to skip all of that bullshit associated with them if I fucked her with a strapon?"
Unfortunutally for all of you hopeful dreamers in a nightmare filled world, no dice. Since you see, technically, it is not your seed that produces babies with Kiyoko, it is your spiritual essence because that is all she is. So no, you will get her to bear your children like the rest of us. And with it, our pain. Soon we will all be united under the same banner that is only being held by our collective hatred for Kinu and Kitsune society.