This is what I see too. There are real people, but the vast majority of trans is a horrible phase caused by the ideology/media manipulation. So the majority of trans are lying/acting, and the saddest part about it is they're just doing what's expected of them in their social circles. I guarantee that none of their friends questioned their "trans" feelings, and most of them were "supportive" because that's what they feel they're supposed to do to be a good person, but worse than that, once the person become trans, they likely expect men/women outside of their social circles to be just as "supportive" and welcoming, but the reality hits when people actually have to put their money where their mouth is and sleep with or marry these people rather than just externally support them with words. And the result is reality appearing transphobic by comparison to their usual fake social circles, which appear accepting.True trans people would love that unfortunately there is a ideology behind it and that is messing it up, hence in real life lesbians are classed as transphobic as they don't want to have sex with women who have a penis or men who call them self a woman.
The fantasy is hot af, but it's just as you say.