I have worked as male bartender in my previous game and have only just started on a femme character, so i am not really sure about this... but I think for the time being, the bar is only topless when you are working there?Or it hasn't been added yet? Like the Nice alternative for the bully events that just got added now?
So you can be either the male topless bartender or female topless bartender but never a customer harassing a topless bartender of any sex. Thus there is no difference whatever your gender or sexual orientation?
Saying that the dev doesnt care about straight male experience is unfair just because there are more female content than males...
But if the bar can stay topless when you are visiting, and interacting with the waiteress and bartender, that would be nice!