Are you making the claim that it's intellectually dishonest that it's sharing, ntr, cuckoldry from a male-centric view, while not from a female? Than yes I agree with you, to a certain extent. However, it is a male power fantasy with all the related tropes set in a fairly defined world. Do I think we get hyper focused on the NTR hate train, etc? Yes, I do. However, you have to admit, when these constant discussions keep cropping up they derail and sap any other kind of thoughtful discussion. I keep seeing people's fetish inserted in a framework where it doesn't quite mesh. Call it gatekeeping, whatever, but I just wish we could get back to more game design/narrative, what have you, related discussions that we all could enjoy.
My observation is generic and not game specific. I see this happen pretty much everywhere.. Even in games where the tags ntr is actually (and correctly) displayed.
I think it goes both ways and people are too butthurt to just let the subject lie when it's not even part of the conversation. How many games in their infancy have posts like "at least it doesn't have...." Or "but does it have...?" In the angry/worries tones of somebody who sees the mere possibility as a personal insult, or its possible presence as the linchpin of what a game must, or must not happen at all costs...
Stuff like rape/non consent happens in 9 games out of 10 (yes, if you got your mommy drunk so you could grope her in her sleep it's still rape). Beastiality ? Hardly anyone bats an eye and most people at most say they're not interested and move on.
Alien tentacle porn? Vanilla!
Morally objectionable behaviour and straight up criminal behaviour? Sure..
None of those subjects ever devolve into such acrimonious name-calling and vitriol...
But this one does, and I genuinely don't get it.
I'm not into it either (at least not on the receiving end).. but I can't help forming an opinion about people on either side of the fence who feel the need to launch crusades and often make some dumb or cringe-worthy arguments.. I wish it would stop.
I mean... It will probably happen again the next time we put something "objectionable" in, and it sure livens the thread up, but.. Meh... boring!
As you said, there should be more interesting points to debate..
Luckily, that too happens, occasionally.. More often in this threads than I see elsewhere, which warms the cold shriveled peanut that passes for my heart.