While VaM's softbody physics is absolutely awesome, there are quite a few gotchas to your point above:
- VaM has far harsher hardware requirements then other VR sims (this, Heat, and Intimate being good examples). I have trouble getting a good framerate for my rift s (80 Hz and one of the lowest resolutions out there) even with a 3080.
- VaM is not interactive like this, Heat, and Intimate are. You simply get the VR perspective and some poking/positioning. The characters don't react to you. (unless some madlad in the modding community has gotten around that since I tried it)
- You need a degree in VaM to set up even the simplest of stages, let alone importing all the assets and requirements from the community for more specific stuff. It is not a minor undertaking that you can slap together in an afternoon.
If I had to recommend a human VR sex sim, it would be ComeCloser. Honestly though, even without a kink for furries, the furry community has the best VR sim content by a country mile.