The whole pushing from either side will never end, oh and yeah I recently came across direct evidence the NTR side does it as well (didn't want to believe it but when given direct evidence I can hold my hand up and change my previous views):
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Ideally what needs to happen is a simple process:
* Dev creates a game how they envision it and it gets posted.
* Someone asks the question politely about how set in stone sharing, ntr etc will be in game or added at a later time. (Without any additional personal opinions either way)
* The dev has a firm clear vision and backbone and states publically if they want to keep it in and that's final or that they wont put it in at all and that's final, not adding it down the line to piss people off. None of this "Well we'll see how it goes bullshit" or "I'll look at the money and see how it goes". No put a clear and firm stance.
* Both sides take this declaration as final, no immature facepalms, no asinine comments like your 1 guy on a porn forum opinion means anything (that includes what I'm writing here, don't expect anyone to actually read or care what I wrote here, and personally I (and you) shouldn't get hung up about it) and just WALK AWAY from the thread, block or ignore if you must.
* Then there are games that suit one party and games to suit the other and never shall they need to meet or antagonise each other.
The ultimate problem is that online, and particularity online social media and forums tend to lend a kind of invincibility to people, especially behind a mask and keyboard where people can't be punched out for their comments has let to a massive EGO drive and now you have the equivalent of the fucking vending machine repairman thinking his opinion means shit to the surgeon about to do a heart bypass. Time and a place, common decency and tact I would say but not gonna happen I guess, everyone had to give their two cents and we have to accept that.