I do feel it's worth pointing out that Wren's genial, and even says she appreciates the offer. I just wanted to use that moment to let the player shape their MC a bit. Is he the type to offer a hand, or not? My granddad was a double amputee, and it always interested me to see how he worked around it. So, that interaction was more about showing Wren's ability to be independent, than to shame the player for trying to help.
This is why she's one of my fav characters in your game. She saw his offer exactly as it was given. One person offering to help another. Any human being would offer a hand up to any other human being... it's only thanks to way things are today that this is an issue thanks to all the focus on "optics" where self-centred jerks focus on surface appearences instead of thousands of years of cultural development and humane interactions with one another.
Being a Cripple with a much similiar outlook, i find Wren a refreshing & inspirational character portrayed in "modern" media. Many of us just accept our conditions and find ways to adapt, overcome and conquer our environments to live our lives as best possible. We don't want special treatment, we just want to live our lives as quietly as possible.
The only thing about being a cripple that i haven't found a way to covercome is the loneliness. finding women who want to be in a relationship with a DAV has been extremely depressing, filling the role of the sterotype of being a DAV who's wife abadoned him and then took his kids & hasn't allowed him to have any contact with them is the biggest kick in the teeth you can get. So i have been learning to adapt, to accept the loneliness that is so damn common for those of us with the triple threat that are part of why so many of us have... let's just say that from my own observations that the 22 number is extremely lowballing the problem.
We have no control over what others think, say or do... we only have control over who we see things or how we interact with the world. Trying to force others to confrim to how we see the world is to me the ultimate form of tyranny, because you are robbing them of their own perceptions. I just wish we'd as a society be more compassionate & empathic with the others we encounter in life, because the majority of people can't tell what's happening in the lives, in the minds, in the hearts of the people they are meeting. Some people's scars/disabilities just can't be seen with the naked eye, it can be mental/emotional scarring that comes from things like abuse, sexual assault, ect that leaves them "once bitten, twice shy".
I try to make all the characters in FiN have their own 'voices,' and sometimes that means leaning hard on little verbal tics. Nicki's based loosely on a friend of mine who would say man and dude, like, a
lot. Still, I'll keep an eye on that. There's a fine line between being annoying and not.
very true. one of my ticks since i was in the Navy has been to use a version of the phrase, "This totally sucks in the Bad Way." to which someone will ALWAYS ask, "How can things suck in a Good Way?" To which I will then answer, "Think about it for a second and then get out of my damn gutter... it's to damn crowded down here." depending on the company it will get laughs or a punch/slap on the shoulder.
Back when i worked with the public i'd deal with so damn many people who say, "like, uhmmm..." at the start or at the end of a sentence way to damn much. LOL
