Thank you for this.
The "gentle femdom"(GF) l got it from looking up tags in R34, it seems depending on the context, its interpretation can be quite different.
However what l loved from certain cases, is the GF with the mommy kink added to it. Maybe what l wanted here is an older female with a younger male where the female takes the initiative but isn't malicious to the male(or female if it is a yuri one).
Reminds me a bit of Bullet girl Phantasia with its reverse intimate mode where the heroines do the actions towards you; l don't know what to call that, certainly not GF or mommy kink despite there having a "soft" approach to it.
l will look above the suggestions.
l am looking for the mommy kink with GF as mentioned above and l don't know if l am in the right thread. Of course, l don't want it to be absolute. The participants doesn't need to be blood-related, can be lesbian, no need to have 20+ age difference; it could be your girlfriend or wife, with her big sister personality, behave with a mommy kink during the intimacy despite both people being similar age.
Below are some examples. They are not useful to discern what's GF or mommy kink but the feeling is there to explain what l meant above.