If they all are indistinguishable, why wouldn't they have a tag?
"who the fuck cares if you've got a dick or a pussy?"
Everyone who isn't gay? Such a shit take.
Not everyone fucks a hole when there is one.
Considering this is fantasy first and foremost, how would you look for a partner in this world if you didn't have those identifiers? Based on how they present themselves? How they act?
Why does "gay" even exist in a fantasy society where, for all intents and purposes, they should've eliminated "gender" entirely? If you're going to make sexes nigh-indistinguishable except for their genitals, then I think it's stupid to go out of their way to still separate people into "male" and "female."
Instead, the fact that you have to wear something strictly identifying you as "male" even if you've got huge tits and wear nothing but feminine clothing almost feels like a bad TERF joke.
As you yourself said, some act feminine and are still guys, just like our world. And the fact that a feminine-acting man bothers you to the point it doesn't sit right and we shouldn't call them men?! Damn your effeminiphobia is peeking out.
Feminine men aren't my issue, lol. You're talking to someone whose (male) Final Fantasy XIV character wears lipstick and eyeshadow, and my best friend irl wears heels and makeup. Maybe if there were like, regular masculine-bodied dudes in the setting who actually present in a masculine fashion alongside masculine-bodied dudes who are just effeminate, it'd be one thing, but I just don't see a point in still retaining a strict definition of "male" and "female" when literally everyone has a woman's body.
So this thread's endless argument is gonna be about how the men aren't built like Jason Momoa, huh ?
That's... really not my issue though. My issue is that these "men" are literally just women with dicks and it's stupid to still call them "men."
I guess people really are too fucking thick-skulled to just accept that a fantasy universe doesn't have to be a 100% replica of reality...
If anything, this fantasy universe is tied too heavily to old-fashioned real-life ways of thinking where your genitals determine what people call you.