Yeah I like the two keywords you used here. Intimacy (physical) and emotional closeness. I agree with those full-heartedly. Do the games you mentioned have these tenets? The ones I haven't played I mean.
		
		
	 
Every mentioned by me game in this topic have more or less of emotional closeness and intimacy, but in some of them it appear after a long time and after many obstacles, darker events or netori (HPMF, The Higher Society, That New Teacher). Also it's not always with every character. For example TNT is netori based and some characters are quick fuck and some are on deeper emotional level. It may give a feeling that game isn't too romantic, because not enough "air time" can be spared to specific LI, if there are many of them. Perfect example is DropOut saga which may be perfect after being finished, but it still contain a lot of deep personal and emotional relations, to not call everything of them relationships (yet). Big warning tho, MC here is a tough guy and problem saver with hero complex, so you should expect things like LIs being in very nasty situations including they being physically harmed (but not by MC).
I think the most vanilla titles would be: The Nature of Magic, Photo Hunt (with love paths of course), The Radiant and Single Again.
I think most of games mentioned in my OP you can find 
in my ratings. There may be some missing, because at the beginning I didn't bother about writing them, then first ones are quite poor as I just wanted to write only few most important sentences, but latest ones are much longer and based on notes written while playing, so I don't forget any of my thoughts.
	
		
	
	
		
		
			Despite it all, he still tender and caring both physically and emotionally. I guess that is what I really seek. No matter how dark the story, or not, I want to see some kindness in the act.
		
		
	 
Not sure, if you'll love it, but while reading this I immediately thought of 
Vae Victis - Khan: Conquer, Ravish, Breed. It may be good for you as some backup title, but maybe you'll find it good enough to start soon. MC is a conqueror and after conquering you can have dark/love route with LIs. At love route you'll have a chance to better know all of them, but don't expect too much lovey-dovey stuff.
	
		
	
	
		
		
			I feel like most games on the site even the top rated ones focus on just the pleasure and the porn-like depiction of sex, you know?
		
		
	 
Well. These are porn games after all 

 most of people here wants just good fuck with SOME story and devs want to earn money, so they need to follow the trends. However, while looking for new titles I found some games with purely wholesome descriptions, but I'm not really a fan of pure and vanilla games, I need things to be spiced at least a bit.
	
		
	
	
		
		
			Thanks for bringing up this topic
		
		
	 
Glad you like it 
	
		
	
	
		
		
			I have some games that might fit the bill but I'm not sure if they count as harem. Now that I think about it... I have to ask, is pursuing multiple women considered harem also? Or does harem refer to women knowingly sharing one guy? I have seen both situations being tagged as harem.
		
		
	 
Not sure, if there's any definition, but from my point of view, typical harem is when LIs accept MC having other women and at some point of story they'll know each other or even live together. But there are games like Photo Hunt, where you can have all main LIs and only some of them know about each other, don't mind MC banging others, but there's even no smallest hint about they all living together with MC.
As for my taste, I accept as harem, every game with multiple LIs as long as there's no mutual exclusivity.